What I'll say is said with the sensitivity of a forgiven sinner. Christ has forgiven me my sin, and anybody caught in sin like our sister is in a position I identify with.
It would be good for the church to remember that a girl does not get pregnant alone. Too many times we subject the woman to disciplinary procedure (removal of membership or disfellowshiping) but forget the man involved. If the man is a fellow church member, the same procedure should apply. If the man is a church member, the responsibility lies with the young sister to bring him to Christ (since the church may not know him).
I do not think a public confession would be humiliating, inappropriate and unnecessary. Usually, if desirable and as led by the Spirit, the sister should go for rebaptism. That's pubic enough.
Please let the sister know that God is just and willing to forgive. He will show her His love and lift her out of sin just like He did to the Samaritan woman at the well.
No problem I figured out what you meant. I totally agree.
Re-Baptism in itself is public acknowledgement and open confession that you have fallen short of a standard of the church.In this situation the evidence of the young ladies sin is already public, I don't see the need for her to confess publicly to the church that she had premarital sex and she is pregnant. It's clearly obvious.
Put yourself in the shoes of a 16 year old pregnant teen. The embarrassment, shame, judging looks and behind the back comments from members is enough trauma for her to deal with.
Imagine the additional torture of having to confess and apologize publicly to the church for something that is already obvious. In this situation to require a public apology is harsh and draconian measure and re-baptism says sorry publicly without having to verbalize it.
However Mark I do agree with you that in certain situations a public apology is necessary for healing and closure in the church as in the case with Dr. Pipim. A public apology was necessary because he is a very public and influential leader and his sins if not publicly confessed by him at the time would have caused serious damage to the ministry and if it had been made public another way.
I personally admired the way he handled situation and I felt his true repentance in the letter he wrote. He did the right thing by stepping away from ministry in order to take care of his issues.
Hi Kodie, grace and peace.
I agree with the fact that being pregnant is an obvious sin.
By publicly confessing her error and asking forgiveness she is not just stating the obvious, she is making a statement to all that what she did is wrong, therefore protecting those of weaker faith that they do not fall into the same error.
If I am truly repentant of something, then it is not shameful to confess, but rather a joy to be reconciled.
If the young lady in question was to find confession embarrassing then I question her
motives as not fully repentant.
God bless, Scott.