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What is it? and is kissing consider as fornicating

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Kissing in and of itself is not considered fornicating, although it may lead to sinful thoughts, and those in turn could lead to fornication. Fornicating is sexual relations-- i.e., "sleeping" with someone-- without benefit of marriage. Adultery is sexual relations with another person's spouse or while an individual is married. Jesus showed us that both fornication and adultery include our thinking as well as behavior.
Where there's smoke, there's fire.

When the Pastor announces that you are married, he says "you may now kiss the bride". It is from that point on that you have permission to kiss.
Kissing in itself is not fornication but it can quickly lead to it.
And quite often does.
Fornication does not have to be sexual intercourse outside Marriage only, heavy petting and fondling each other ,also are classed as fornicating . I would dare and include kissing also . Why I say so , it is because , if you have kissed this person , and they did not become your spouse , what happens , you have exchanged intimacy , and I am fairly sure you are not going to kiss without your bodies (private e parts) touching . That is already fornicating . The Bible warns us not to touch in any way to encourage sexual sins. and encourages Chastity . Purity is rewarding , in this world where sexuality is flaunted at us , we as God fearing People ought to make a difference in our behaviour .Should not there a difference between what the gentiles are doing and us ? I can say a lot more , but will stop here and allow the Holy Spirit to convict , if you wish to , you can contact ,me ,. sincerely ,, looking to the coming of Our Lord and Saviour , in his name , I plead with you , to remain single minded in these matters , and keep your bodies pure which is a reasonable sacrafice unto the Lord , Joseph
Fornication only actually happens in copulation. Not kissing or anything else. The problem is, God knows that we will follow through with something if we have the opportunity and the desire. So, even if God forces us, to prevents us from committing adultery or murder, to save a marriage or a life, He still has to hold it against us. God wants a Universe where people are free and do not have to be forced:

Gen. 20:3 But God came to Abimelech in a dream by night, and said to him, Behold, thou [art but] a dead man, for the woman which thou hast taken; for she [is] a man's wife.
20:4 But Abimelech had not come near her: and he said, Lord, wilt thou slay also a righteous nation?
20:5 Said he not unto me, She [is] my sister? and she, even she herself said, He [is] my brother: in the integrity of my heart and innocency of my hands have I done this.
20:6 And God said unto him in a dream, Yea, I know that thou didst this in the integrity of thy heart; for I also withheld thee from sinning against me: therefore suffered I thee not to touch her.

God was going to kill him for a crime that he would have committed, if God had not intervened.

That's why the Lord says if you have intentions, you're guilty. If you hate your brother, in your heart, saying "I wish he was dead", that means if God allowed it, and you could get away with it, you would kill him, fully believing you would be better off if he really where dead.
Fornication (pornea) is any form of SEXUAL MISCONDUCT. It is not limited to INTERCOURSE with someone with whom you are not entitled to enjoy this privilege.
Jesus said that even the inclination to treat someone who is not your spouse, as if they were, is equivalent to fornication.
The next of kin, lust (epithumia - inordinate desire), is the usual precursor to physical activity (opportunity being available).
Since sexual activity is principally a function of the brain, (yes we engage numerous other body parts to transmit the stimuli) Jesus was so right to indicate that just to look upon someone and harbour a desire above that which your (unmarried) relationship should have, is adultery Remember that the sub-conscious is unable to differentiate between real and imaginary objects/subjects. Does masturbation fit into this category?.
Any sexual or sexually related activity with someone/something not your spouse, or activity with your spouse that is 'unnatural' will qualify as fornication.What do you think pornography is? Vicarious or virtual sexual intercourse!
Even while having intercourse with your spouse, the partner in your bed may not be the partner in your head. That is fornication , and this may very well lead to adultry (moichia- to put a wedge between/ separate)
I like my interpretation better. It has Scripture backing it up, from Genesis.

I remember reformed Adventist who said he and his wife no longer had contact. He couldn't handle any more kids, and he thought birth control was wrong. He also said that oral sex was bad. The problem with things like that is, you just don't have anything from the Bible to back it up with.

If you need to feel like your better than the average Adventist, I guess I can understand that. But if you teach something as doctrine, you need to always have Scripture. Or you don't have any authority to teach it.
You do have a point in that we must always abide by scripture alone.
Thanks my Brother for reminding us , that we have to teach according to The Word , however as we mature in Christ , we may have an opinion on certain matters which is formed from a Biblical Principle / Basis . For example , Paul gave his opinion on marriage and other matters . What is important is that you clearly state that it is your opinion. The whole purpose of our Christian exxperience is that we grow to understand the Mind of God , through Christ , let this mind be in you which was in Christ . Paul encourages us to follow him as he follows Christ.
Again refering to your comment that forsome things in scripture we dont anything to back it up with is not totally true , we tend to scratch the surfice for the answers , I believe God has given us light on matters which He knew would come up . I will encourage you to dig deeper , and you will find the answers .
Fornication is a process of having sexual relations between two unmarried people.

Now sexual relations include a whole lot of stuff, sex starts from the mind.
Sexual relations include: Kissing, Masturbation, and forbidden acts such as homosexuality, incest etc.

Anything which stimulates the body and lead to an erection in men, or vaginal lubrication in women is considered a sexual act. When an erection occurs it means something has got to be done, and when lubrication occurs it means something has to be received.

Kissing, masturbation, oral sex, fantasy all instantly lead to excitation state and during that state the mind is focused on sex.
It happens. Ask for forgiveness and strive for better. :)


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