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Hi brethren, is it bad for a youth to have a few girlfriends, around two, three or four to choose from as you plan to marry in a year or so?

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If you do not befriend many how would you know that you can cope with this one or that one? I think that is even the best way to choose a life partener. My brother go ahead to befriend without promissing them of cause till you are settle on one, before you can make a move. To befriend is not a sin. I say again that just to befriend is no a sin.


That depends what you mean by girlfriend. 

Thanks. This message is directed to a question ask by a brother in this very site. By this word i undersdand it to be some one who is a friend. I can share worries and joys with that person. A girlfriend is closer more that a mere friend. As an adventist, a girlfriend remaind a friend not a wife as the world understand it. Help me if i am mistaking.


Boys or girls friends maintain a sound relationship with each other for Christ is the center of everything that they do in life. For a single to take  girls as friend is just like him taking boy as friend. If not through friendship how would one know that he can walk with X or Y. As far as your have not propose or promise to one of them you remain friends, good friends, faithful to one onother where Christ is the beginner and the sustaner. Such friendship last till ... and shall continu in heaven. Let us call things by their names for Jesus has been a friend to kids, women man etc... when He was on earth.


According to Franceline response, I there by say that no you cannot have more than one girlfriend at the same time.. You will be trifling with too many hearts. 


I agree.. It is cruel to mess with someones emotions... Not to mention the fact that those who dabble in that area are most often spiritually injured by an inflated ego...



This depends on how one defines "girl friend."  I have had many "girl friends" even when my wife was still alive, and she had many boy friends too.  One can not have too many friends, no matter what the gender.  They enrichen one's life.   Some of these "girl friends" were at times only a year or so old, or older.  They just loved to come and jump into my arms or on my lap if seated.  One time two of them ran and jumped in my lap at the same time and my chair broke.  A small price to pay for the unsophisticated love of a young person.


However, they could never become a "sweetheart."  When the age difference narrows and they become a potential partner, then you have to  be more selective.  As one is growing up, it is good to become acquainted with several "possible" candidates for a sweetheart.  As another said, this gives a person a broader view of what they can live with and what is not their first choice. 

However, when one gets to the point where they are more serious, then it should be limited to just one person.  It is just as much a sin to play with the emotions of another as any other sin one can commit.  Before attempting to gain the undivided affections of another, be sure that you are ready to make that same commitment yourself.  Because, even after courting reaches that point, there still is alot to learn about the other person. 

And if you find that you have made a mistake, do not let anyone talk you out of correcting that mistake before vows are taken.  It is better to break someone's heart before marriage, than after, if it is seen that to continue would result in a home where the clouds are never lifted.  A sweethearts heart will mend in time.  The broken heart that results after marriage will live with that person forever. 

In any and all situations, let the Lord be in control and He will lead you in the right way.

Happy Sabbath!


Maranatha :)


great book to get



please o please read it before making the biggest mistake that breaks the SACREDNESS OF MARRIAGE


u know!

the christians that keep harping to the gays about while they betray GOD and file for divorce in droves

and really desecrate marriages


but anyhooo

great book

Would you stop bringing gays into every discussion!

the gays are already  here for every discussion











might was well welcome them with your christian charm


No offence. what do you mean? Are you gay? Your picture and all.

Paul, No One who is gay will enter heaven 

1 Cor 6:9-11

9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

I really don't understand where gays fit in, in this conversation we have about dating before marriage.. I have read many of  Man Flower Glow, responses on this forum as well as others and for some reason there is always something about GAYS..

What exactly is the message you are trying to convey my dear? 

Is there a campaign for GAYS, that we are unaware of on this site? 


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