No wonder you are grumpy, Kevin.
I'm not grumpy at all, Daniel. I just do not believe that these things are all a joke. Some day you will see that these things are not so funny.
Some people take marriage so lightly; I am amazed
Anything that deviates from God's plan for marriage is adultery.
2 For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the husband. 3 So then, if while her husband is living she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress though she is joined to another man. Romans 7
When it says 'if her husband dies' it does not mean if she kills him or vice versa. When two people marry they should be prepared to stay together for life.
I see you support Divorce
"If a wife is able to practice the fraudulent withholding of affection for years on end, keeping her husband stuck in a marriage that is really no marriage at all, that raises other questions."
Like, "Are there children involved?"
"God has promised not to allow us to be tempted beyond our capacity, and has promised to make us "a way of escape." So, why has the man not been able to "escape" without resorting to sin on his own part?"
What would you suggest? Should he castrate himself? This is exactly what Paul said would happen, if a wife abandons her husband without consent. Paul said that he would sin, because of his incontinence.
If you abandon your wife, or your husband, you cause them to sin through their incontinence. Just like if you divorce your spouse, you cause them to commit adultery.
"it is also possible that she may be fulfilling her duty toward God by not allowing a corrupt-minded man to use her as his play thing."
That's not Paul's scenario. He said just not to abandon your spouse. And, how can it be someone's duty to do what the Bible says not to do?
So, we'd have to create yet another scenario:
Husband: "I want to commit sodomy with you."
Wife: "I will not withhold myself from you, as the Bible commands, but all I can offer is reproductive coupling, for that is God's design."
Husband: "Sodomy or nothing."
Then the husband resorts to pornography? That's just weird. That's not a typical scenario. I can't recall anything from the Bible, or EGW. But, if something like that ever does happen, then it's the husband that's doing the abandoning.