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Adultery the Only Reason for Divorce—A woman may be legally divorced from her husband by the laws of the land and yet not divorced in the sight of God and according to the higher law. There is only one sin, which is adultery, which can place the husband or wife in a position where they can be free from the marriage vow in the sight of God. Although the laws of the land may grant a divorce, yet they are husband and wife still in the Bible light, according to the laws of God. – {TSB 78.4}

I saw that Sister Jones, as yet, has no right to marry another man; but if she, or any other woman, should obtain a divorce legally on the ground that her husband was guilty of adultery, then she is free to be married to whom she chooses.—The Adventist Home, 344. – {TSB 79.1}

Among the Jews a man was permitted to put away his wife for the most trivial offenses, and the woman was then at liberty to marry again. This practice led to great wretchedness and sin. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus declared plainly that there could be no dissolution of the marriage tie except for unfaithfulness to the marriage vow. “Everyone,” He said, “that putteth away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, maketh her an adulteress: and whosoever shall marry her when she is put away committeth adultery” (Matthew 5:32, R.V.). – {TSB 79.2}

When the Pharisees afterward questioned Him concerning the lawfulness of divorce, Jesus pointed His hearers back to the marriage institution as ordained at creation. “Because of the hardness of your hearts,” He said, Moses “suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so” (Matthew 19:8). He referred them to the blessed days of Eden, when God pronounced all things “very good.” Then marriage and the Sabbath had their origin, twin institutions for the glory of God in the benefit of humanity. Then, as the Creator joined the hands of the holy pair in wedlock, saying, A man shall “leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one” (Genesis 2:24), He enunciated the law of marriage for all the children of Adam to the close of time. That which the Eternal Father Himself had pronounced good was the law of highest blessing and development for man.—Thoughts from the Mount of Blessing, 63. – {TSB 79.3}

Change Disposition, Not the Marriage Status—I have received a letter from your husband. I would say that there is only one thing for which a husband may lawfully separate from his wife or a wife from her husband, and that is adultery. – {TSB 80.1}

If your dispositions are not congenial, would it not be for the glory of God for you to change these dispositions? – {TSB 80.2}

A husband and wife should cultivate respect and affection for each other. They should guard the spirit, the words, and the actions so that nothing will be said or done to irritate or annoy. Each is to have a care for the other, doing all in their power to strengthen their mutual affection. – {TSB 80.3}

I tell you both to seek the Lord. In love and kindness do your duty one to the other. The husband should cultivate industrious habits, doing his best to support his family. This will lead his wife to have respect for him.—The Adventist Home, 345. – {TSB 80.4}

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No wonder you are grumpy, Kevin.

Well said Will Anderson. Thanks for your contribution.

 I'm not grumpy at all, Daniel. I just do not believe that these things are all a joke. Some day you will see that these things are not so funny.

Some people take marriage so lightly; I am amazed 

Anything that deviates from God's plan for marriage is adultery.


2 For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the husband. 3 So then, if while her husband is living she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress though she is joined to another man.  Romans 7

When it says 'if her husband dies' it does not mean if she kills him or vice versa. When two people marry they should be prepared to stay together for life. 

I see you support Divorce  


"If a wife is able to practice the fraudulent withholding of affection for years on end, keeping her husband stuck in a marriage that is really no marriage at all, that raises other questions."

Like, "Are there children involved?"


"God has promised not to allow us to be tempted beyond our capacity, and has promised to make us "a way of escape." So, why has the man not been able to "escape" without resorting to sin on his own part?"

What would you suggest?  Should he castrate himself?  This is exactly what Paul said would happen, if a wife abandons her husband without consent.  Paul said that he would sin, because of his incontinence.

If you abandon your wife, or your husband, you cause them to sin through their incontinence.  Just like if you divorce your spouse, you cause them to commit adultery.


"it is also possible that she may be fulfilling her duty toward God by not allowing a corrupt-minded man to use her as his play thing."

That's not Paul's scenario.  He said just not to abandon your spouse.  And, how can it be someone's duty to do what the Bible says not to do?

So, we'd have to create yet another scenario:

Husband:  "I want to commit sodomy with you."

Wife:  "I will not withhold myself from you, as the Bible commands, but all I can offer is reproductive coupling, for that is God's design."

Husband:  "Sodomy or nothing."

Then the husband resorts to pornography?  That's just weird.  That's not a typical scenario.  I can't recall anything from the Bible, or EGW.  But, if something like that ever does happen, then it's the husband that's doing the abandoning.

Define incontinence please.
But the fruit of the spirit is love... Self control...

I believe self control is the opposite of incontinence.

Does the church teach total depravity?


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