I am dating a woman whose mother and niece lives with her, the house belongs to her and it has three bedrooms, plus a guest room. She works long hours and is heavily involved in church offices and activities. This greatly reduces the time we get to spend together, she has a guest room, bearing mind her mom lives with her would it be wrong to spend a weekend.
It is my belief that you are asking the wrong question.
All other things being equal, which they are not, there is no moral issue in being a guest in a ladies home. However, your scenario points out several issues that are far worse then either what staying there might do to your relationship or your reputaion or moral standing. These are the real issues to consider.
See, the issue is not the amount of time you can spend together now. The real issue is whether she is willing to sacrifice her other obligations for you. If she is not willing to do that now, the liklihood that she will ever do so is not certain. No, staying over in her home is the least of the problems in this situation.
Well my advise is this ,to simply stay away from sleeping at her place or your place while u r not married .You guys might have GOOD intentions , but u have to remember the Devil . The bible says to flee from fornication and to shone the appearances of all evil .I am not saying that u gonna do that .Wat i am saying is to avoid all avenues of sin .
I don't know the situation with you and your lady friend. I personally don't want to know (lol no offense intended) it's none of my business. Actually its none of anyone's business. From what I have seen this thread has gone too far. The details concerning your lady friend's mother living with her have not been given so we should not assume. I understand your wanting an answer but people will attach sexual motives to things because they have been given the opportunity to. I have avoided this thread and avoided it because the things I have read have truly bothered me. I ask you please IJ Charles stop explaining yourself to others. Go to God...read SOP....lol think it over and discuss it with her and her mother and pray together with them. Ask God for guidance in your decisions and go with what He reveals. Don't let AO be your answer. Your question hasn't been answered yet.
As for the other members who have posted...I am not targeting you. I understand that we all have short comings. I do not take away from the advice that you all have given because you took the time to try and offer help. Yes temptation will come but it may not even be sexual. It could anything...really anything from violence to stealing everything in their house. (And I'm not calling you a thief) If you manage your time wisely and keep God before your eyes you will not fall as David when he saw Bathsheba bathing. If you are worried about your name being in other's mouths you have options. You could stay in a hotel...you could sleep in your car (lol)...you could even sleep in the same room as her mother with a lock on the door. Just my thoughts.
This question has certainly drawn a lot of attention.
How far do you live from your girlfriend? Why do you have to stay over? Why can't you spend a few hours then go home? Do you plan to stay over once, twice - - -?
If you lived in another state ot town I wouldn't see anything wrong with you visiting and staying there over night. It would give you time to get to know the family better and to spend some quality time with the lady you intend to marry. In such a case, you could even help her with the church work if it's not of a sensitive nature.
What if you break up? Will the next man or the next want to sleep over too? In this senerio, .....?
what you do is your business
if you do it and still be able to hold your head up high
that is all that matters