How are you kind to the haters? The answer is it is humanly impossible. You will fail at this, but God can forgive you and make you more of a lover than a hater. Jesus is carrying me through this very hard period of my life. I live with haters and they are all around me that is why my friend told me to get closer to Jesus because He will help me even carry me if He has to.
Heb 10:29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace? 30 For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people.
God Bless you Bro Jesus will carry you trough.
Yes Andrew, as you say, it is humanly impossible. In our humanity we will fail at it... "it is only the Spirit of God that gives love for hatred." (Mount of Blessings p.75.)
Sometimes we are buffeted for our faults... sometimes we are buffeted through no fault of our own, sometimes we are 'given a rough time' even for trying to show kindness to somebody. (1Peter 2:20.)
And yes, if we want it, there can be consolation in the thought that "haters" will reap a bitter harvest to themselves. (In sowing bitterness, they will reap bitterness. And just as the reaping is so much greater than the sowing, so likewise to them the consequences of their words and actions will appear hugely disproportionate. They will not be able to trace from cause to effect. Yet there will be no failure in the crop... the season will turn, and they will gather bitter sorrows to themselves.)
I often recall the thought that "the very act of looking for evil in others, develops evil in those that look." (Ministry of Healing p.492)
But let us not rest in the 'comforts' of vengeance. Jesus calls on us to truly love our enemies, to truly bless them that curse us, to do genuine good to them that hate us, and to pray for them which despitefully use us, and persecute us. (Matthew 5:44). This is all humanly impossible. And yet, if we believe that Jesus' way is the right way, and the best way, then we will over-rule our feelings, and do just as He asks. This, I believe, is righteousness by faith. It is living by faith, as opposed to being controlled by our inward feelings, and the outward circumstances.
I understand your pain and have gone through those feelings as well https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0I103xO9qgI
Being kind isn't always easy, but the best thing to do when you are inclined to respond likewise is just walk away and take a moment to pray and regain focus on what truth is (God is truth). Usually when someone hates you or is bent on doing evil it's because they don't fully understand the truth we are suppose to know or should be seeking. That or they are confused about the situation. As Christians we should always attempt to be the ones to bring the truth forward even if it means humbling ourselves and admitting our faults/mistakes regardless of how we may or are being treated in response to our mistake.
There are also times when some of us have to be firm and assertive with people but it should never be out of hatred towards them or other evil motives like greed or jealousy.