Though the two personality disorders share some common symptoms, they are distinct disorders with their own set of diagnostic criteria. For example, both BPD and NPD deal with conflict in a way that is unhealthy to themselves and those around them. It’s the expression of the anger that results from the conflict that is different.
Just like Borderline Personality Disorder, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) lists nine symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If you exhibit five of these nine symptoms in a persistent manner, you meet the criteria for diagnosis of NPD:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder can exist on its own, but can also be found co-occurring with Borderline Personality Disorder. Mix and match five out of nine symptoms of NPD with five out of the nine symptoms of BPD, and you get someone who will likely be described at least as “difficult” or “high maintenance,” and who certainly is having a tough time in day-to-day life.
Both people with BPD and with NPD deal with an intense fear of abandonment. Enhancing that fear of abandonment is the fact that sustaining relationships with others in the face of these symptoms is a challenge to say the least. “Intense and stormy relationships” is, in fact, one of the characterizing symptoms of BPD.
In an article for Psychology Today, Susan Heitler, PhD, author and Harvard graduate, describes emotionally healthy functioning in the absence of BPD or NPD: “Emotionally healthy functioning is characterized by ability to hear your own concerns, thoughts, and feelings and also to be responsive to others’ concerns.”
In the world of the narcissist, that second part just isn’t present. Narcissists are unable to step outside of themselves to imagine any weight behind someone else’s opinion. This renders someone with NPD socially and emotionally ineffective, and affects their ability to maintain relationships.
The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. They may also concentrate on grandiose fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. These characteristics typically begin in early adulthood and must be consistently evident in multiple contexts, such as at work and in relationships.
People with narcissistic personality disorder believe they are superior or special, and often try to associate with other people they believe are unique or gifted in some way. This association enhances their self-esteem, which is typically quite fragile underneath the surface. Individuals with NPD seek excessive admiration and attention in order to know that others think highly of them. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder have difficulty tolerating criticism or defeat, and may be left feeling humiliated or empty when they experience an "injury" in the form of criticism or rejection.
"Thus saith The Lord: I speak by the spirit to mankind, but many of you defy and do not believe that I the living God speak to man through the spirit that I have given believers even to this very day. Where do you think my written Word came from? It was given by prophesy in old time not by the will of man, but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the spirit that inspired them.
You mockers, railers and blasphemers, who despise the spirit and the Words that I inspire; Surely unless you repent, you shall answer for such, for you say you believe, then why don't you believe? You say you follow my Son, but why don't you follow my Son both in Word and deed?
Hypocrites, despisers of the spirit and devoid of love, having a form a godliness but denying the power thereof. It shall wax worse and worse for you. Now, for those that have a kind heart, though you lack understanding in some things, as all men lack in understanding as no man knows everything, but are seeking and striving to do good and seek my will and truth, I understand and want to continually teach you from not just my written Word, but my spirit as well. But most of your leaders do not know how my spirit works, nor how to hear my voice. Nor do they teach you, for one who does not know cannot teach what they do not know. All you have to do is desire to hear, be humble to my voice, and listen, and I am there.
You do not have to be perfect, without sin to hear my voice, for there is no man other than my only begotten Son who was and is without sin. He came to deliver you from death through eternal life and to allow you to fellowship with me and with my Son, which is what I have always desired. But you need to press in and seek my voice, and I will be found, seek and you shall find. But mockers, railers and blasphemers, they never listen nor seek my voice, but love to stand in opposition to my spirit, deliverance and comfort that I give only through my spirit, and Words that were written long ago from my spirit and those that I give in these times as well. I am not a God that cannot and will not speak to His people, but they must listen in order to hear, and seek earnestly my voice." You say you believe in the spirit of prophesy, but the spirit nor is prophecy dead, but lives in every believer if they would only understand that?
This the beginning of times of peril, and those that listen and obey will have ability to stand against the wiles of the Devil, defend and aggressively oppose and obstruct the wicked. But there is not a lot of time to wait. I wish that my people would endeavor to be moved by my spirit, instead of it lying dormant, not utilized or even desired to be made known and manifested. There is a great spirit of apathy among many people, who think that they do well, when they refuse to act against evil and stand for the truth both in Word and deed. One can say the hungry need to be fed. That is good, but is it not better to say the hungry need to be feed, and then find food for them to eat? It is good to say, walk by the spirit, but it is better to say walk by the spirit and do so, day by day?
Many of my people do not eat of my spiritual food as they should, as my spirit is a fountain of living waters, flowing and available to all who wish to drink of it."
"The more you mockers mock, the more the spirit will have something to say of it. Go on then, hew out your broken cisterns that can hold no water, and do not quench the thirst, but you do quench the spirit which you defy and despise. Surely, your crocked paths shall not prosper, nor your steps lead to peace and tranquility, but lead to darkness and death. Your mouths speak swelling words of unbelief, professing to be wise, you are fools, devoid of the spirit, striving against the spirit and performing dead works of the flesh, touch not, taste not, handle not. Perfecting of the flesh and judging by the flesh. It is not profitable to you or anyone else. But the manifestation of the sprit is given to every man to profit withal. I would that you walked by the spirit in love, but you do not. There be some here that strive to walk by my written Word and as inspired, I commend such and encourage you to do so more so."
I think rather the one who is ignorant is you, James. Thinking you can use the Holy Spirit as a tool to do your Humanistic bidding. God gives gifts to his people to grow the church. Not to be abused by selfish persons like you for his own ends.
Well, I would revise that statement somewhat. You can pray for the presence of the Holy Spirit and the very acoustics of a room will change. When I have been called upon to preach in the past I ask, like Elisha of Old, for a double portion of the Holy Spirit, that only what He would want said will be spoken. I have prepared sermons before, and the Spirit nudge me not to give that one, but another the night before. Despite my handicap, or having a vicious migraine. When I am speaking from scripture in a sermon, the Spirit sustains me until I am done, and then my infirmity washes over me like a violent wave. My style is different than most, because it is scripture after scripture. When I am preparing a verse comes to mind, and another follows, then another and another.and so forth. But, I think that is what was done in the Synagogues both for Jew and Gentile, to read and explain from scripture, rather than simply story telling.
Just as Ellen White predicted so long ago. People will mistake the Holy Spirit for an evil one and deceive themselves. The local church did just that. Two of the Children were in the attic and saw two demonic entities of the rented church that frightened them. The Head Elder said, 'Are you sure they weren't angels' Every bad decision they make to glorify evil and eschew good they blame on the 'Holy Sprit,' but clearly there is nothing Holy about the Spirit they follow.
I find most Adventists don't understand, nor accept Spirituality as actual. They think miracles are a thing of the Bible and don't happen anymore. Scripture tells us that in Ephesians 6:12 otherwise. I remember my father was a convert and once told me all those things happened back then, not now. I think that is how most Adventists feel. There are no longer demonic possessions, I have seen them first hand. That the Holy Spirit is a force and not a part of the God Head. They don't encounter Angels, but scripture also tells us we entertain them unaware. I met my Guardian Angel when I was a kid. They can take human form. Mine was a little black kid. When my spirit was broken in an inner city hell hole, and some wannabe Satanist and his friends were telling me what I was going to listen to, and dress like, or face the consequences, he appeared out of nowhere, and the hoard ran for their lives in terror. I was dejected. He put his hand on my shoulder and said, 'Don't listen to them, or do what they do.' I nodded in agreement. When I looked up, it was as if he was never there. It was a huge empty field, he could not have humanly disappeared that quickly.