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Narcissistic Personality Disorder vs Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder:  How are They Different

Though the two personality disorders share some common symptoms, they are distinct disorders with their own set of diagnostic criteria. For example, both BPD and NPD deal with conflict in a way that is unhealthy to themselves and those around them. It’s the expression of the anger that results from the conflict that is different.

Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Just like Borderline Personality Disorder, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) lists nine symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If you exhibit five of these nine symptoms in a persistent manner, you meet the criteria for diagnosis of NPD:

  • An exaggerated sense of one’s own abilities and achievements
  • A constant need for attention, affirmation, and praise
  • A belief that you are unique or “special,” and should only associate with other people of the same status
  • Persistent fantasies about attaining success and power
  • Exploiting other people for personal gain
  • A sense of entitlement and expectation of special treatment
  • A preoccupation with power or success
  • Feeling envious of others, or believing that others are envious of you
  • A lack of empathy for others

NPD and BPD: Similarities and Differences

Narcissistic Personality Disorder can exist on its own, but can also be found co-occurring with Borderline Personality Disorder. Mix and match five out of nine symptoms of NPD with five out of the nine symptoms of BPD, and you get someone who will likely be described at least as “difficult” or “high maintenance,” and who certainly is having a tough time in day-to-day life.

Both people with BPD and with NPD deal with an intense fear of abandonment. Enhancing that fear of abandonment is the fact that sustaining relationships with others in the face of these symptoms is a challenge to say the least. “Intense and stormy relationships” is, in fact, one of the characterizing symptoms of BPD.

In an article for Psychology Today, Susan Heitler, PhD, author and Harvard graduate, describes emotionally healthy functioning in the absence of BPD or NPD: “Emotionally healthy functioning is characterized by ability to hear your own concerns, thoughts, and feelings and also to be responsive to others’ concerns.”

In the world of the narcissist, that second part just isn’t present. Narcissists are unable to step outside of themselves to imagine any weight behind someone else’s opinion. This renders someone with NPD socially and emotionally ineffective, and affects their ability to maintain relationships.


The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. They may also concentrate on grandiose fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. These characteristics typically begin in early adulthood and must be consistently evident in multiple contexts, such as at work and in relationships. 

People with narcissistic personality disorder believe they are superior or special, and often try to associate with other people they believe are unique or gifted in some way. This association enhances their self-esteem, which is typically quite fragile underneath the surface. Individuals with NPD seek excessive admiration and attention in order to know that others think highly of them. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder have difficulty tolerating criticism or defeat, and may be left feeling humiliated or empty when they experience an "injury" in the form of criticism or rejection. 

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Bart, you are insulting also. My posts were about miracles that happened for real,

Again I have no clue who you are or what you are talking about when it come to your personal life. "For  real"  

Actually I was trying to be nice which is not easy for me.

Do not worry about this poor excuse for a christian Bart. As long as you are being agreeable vhit him you are the best person on the earth. When you do not he curses you with fire and brimstone. I myself do not take any notice of his rantings. 

Bart, most of my comments were not to you. But felt I had to explain to you. There has been a long battle between Elijah, JasonM and I. You apparently don't know the history, which is long.

I appreciate you were trying to be nice. I may have mis-perceived your intent as insensitive. Sorry if that's the case. Please understand, I have a lot of friends here as well as some relentless and hostile enemies who go after every word and expression, seeking to catch me in my words.

James French: "Continual evil surmising against my spirit and my ways is blasphemy." 

James, the way you say "my spirit" is strange. That in itself seems like blasphemy.  I do not command like that because it is not humble and I would not say "my spirit" that suggests ownership. You have no ownership of the creator.  You were made in his image and you are a fellow creature like me not a commander of Gods Spirit. If anything the Holy Spirit should command you.   When the angles say "Holy, Holy, Holy they are speaking of God the Father, God the Son and the Holy Spirit.  I do not like the way Pentecostals and Charismatics are familiar with God in ways they should not or put on the fake King James Bible speak and weird people out with thees and thous and thus saith the Lord. 

You are quite correct Raymond James is all about James how he can use God's Spirit as his command (if it is true) Self promoting self, glorification, with a dash of madness.


You fools, the above was prophecy directly through the Holy Spirit. I was not speaking for myself, but speaking as inspired by the Holy Spirit.
You make false assumptions and rash judgments. "My spirit" is God through the spirit referring to His spirit, the gift of God.
Madness, how dare you! You are demonic and asinine, you act like a child of the Devil, and stand in opposition to the spirit of God.

Well well seems like you must have found a way of walking with God and the devil at the same time. To my recollection, Jesus said it was not possible. Or is it as we see the most obvious answer is just madness.  

While in the military we were taught to respect the "chain of command".  God has a similar order because God is a God of order.  The Bible teaches that Jesus is our Elder Brother", which means he is above us, not our buddy.  Everything about God teaches that he is above everything, then the angels and then us.  It seems James who calls us fools does not understand this and can order God about with a loud King James speaking preacher tone.  Does it say some where that we are to be humble????


"Thus saith The Lord: I speak by the spirit to mankind, but many of you defy and do not believe that I the living God speak to man through the spirit that I have given believers even to this very day. Where do you think my written Word came from? It was given by prophesy in old time not by the will of man, but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the spirit that inspired them.

You mockers, railers and blasphemers, who despise the spirit and the Words that I inspire; Surely unless you repent, you shall answer for such, for you say you believe, then why don't you believe? You say you follow my Son, but why don't you follow my Son both in Word and deed?

Hypocrites, despisers of the spirit and devoid of love, having a form a godliness but denying the power thereof. It shall wax worse and worse for you. Now, for those that have a kind heart, though you lack understanding in some things, as all men lack in understanding as no man knows everything, but are seeking and striving to do good and seek my will and truth, I understand and want to continually teach you from not just my written Word, but my spirit as well. But most of your leaders do not know how my spirit works, nor how to hear my voice. Nor do they teach you, for one who does not know cannot teach what they do not know. All you have to do is desire to hear, be humble to my voice, and listen, and I am there.

You do not have to be perfect, without sin to hear my voice, for there is no man other than my only begotten Son who was and is without sin. He came to deliver you from death through eternal life and to allow you to fellowship with me and with my Son, which is what I have always desired. But you need to press in and seek my voice, and I will be found, seek and you shall find. But mockers, railers and blasphemers, they never listen nor seek my voice, but love to stand in opposition to my spirit, deliverance and comfort that I give only through my spirit, and Words that were written long ago from my spirit and those that I give in these times as well. I am not a God that cannot and will not speak to His people, but they must listen in order to hear, and seek earnestly my voice." You say you believe in the spirit of prophesy, but the spirit nor is prophecy dead, but lives in every believer if they would only understand that?

This the beginning of times of peril, and those that listen and obey will have ability to stand against the wiles of the Devil, defend and aggressively oppose and obstruct the wicked. But there is not a lot of time to wait. I wish that my people would endeavor to be moved by my spirit, instead of it lying dormant, not utilized or even desired to be made known and manifested. There is a great spirit of apathy among many people, who think that they do well, when they refuse to act against evil and stand for the truth both in Word and deed. One can say the hungry need to be fed. That is good, but is it not better to say the hungry need to be feed, and then find food for them to eat? It is good to say, walk by the spirit, but it is better to say walk by the spirit and do so, day by day?

Many of my people do not eat of my spiritual food as they should, as my spirit is a fountain of living waters, flowing and available to all who wish to drink of it."

"The more you mockers mock, the more the spirit will have something to say of it. Go on then, hew out your broken cisterns that can hold no water, and do not quench the thirst, but you do quench the spirit which you defy and despise. Surely, your crocked paths shall not prosper, nor your steps lead to peace and tranquility, but lead to darkness and death. Your mouths speak swelling words of unbelief, professing to be wise, you are fools, devoid of the spirit, striving against the spirit and performing dead works of the flesh, touch not, taste not, handle not. Perfecting of the flesh and judging by the flesh. It is not profitable to you or anyone else. But the manifestation of the sprit is given to every man to profit withal. I would that you walked by the spirit in love, but you do not. There be some here that strive to walk by my written Word and as inspired, I commend such and encourage you to do so more so."


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