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After Publishing this article in our InspireNATION Magazine, we got a lot of feedback from christians worldwide about the topic.  Read the Article and let us know what you think about the topic of Oral Sex.  Is it Sodomy like some christians believe or is it enhanced sexual pleasure between consenting husband and wife.  What does the Bible say about Oral Sex?  Share your views.


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can't say the bible said anything about it but I wonder what would Jesus Do???
Sure it does!  If the marriage bed is "undefiled", then what happens between consenting married adults in the eyes of the Lord is sacred...that includes oral sex.  

NOTE:  Those that are expecting everything to directly be spelled out (when sex was rarely discussed publically except for avoiding fornication, adultery, beastiality, and homosexuality, etc.) are going to be disappointed.

I'll ask a question Do we smell with our eyes and see with our nose and eat with our ears and hear with our mouth? I don't think so God gave man every organ needed to perform different tasks only one or two part of our body responds to sexual urges breasts and genitals, well my tongue surely doesn't get stiff when i'm aroused my penis does .......

And I cannot put anything in the bible that is not there I can only take from the bible what is there and the bible says line upon line precepts upon precepts you cannot use one verse to justify anything  And I just can't seem to picture Christ doing that!!!!    

Since Jesus never married, I can't see Him kissing a woman in the mouth either, which does not mean that it would not be lawful.

Bottom Line:  Scripture has spoken.  For those who are happily married in a mutually consentual sexual relationship, follow the principles of Hebrews 13:4, and read the Book of  Song of Solomon and enjoy celebrating love as GOD intended.

For those who are "personally offended or outraged", follow your convictions and do not do it.  Just remember to leave the judgement to the Holy Spirit.

and might i tell the book of Solomon has nothing to do with that! And I could see Jesus kissing a woman He made us to do that so he could,and there's nothing wrong with that,that's mouth to mouth, but what this is it's intemperence we can't be satisfied with the way God has set it so we have to add a little of this and a little of that if you reason like that like that you will soon start justifying anal sex! and i'm not Judging it's just to obvious for people not to be able to see clearly!!


Referring back to the OP from personal opinions, the Bible says this:


Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.--Hebrews 13:4


Drink water from your own cistern, and running water from your own well.  Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets?  Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you.  Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth.  As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love.--Proverbs 5:15-19


Song of Solomon, Chapter 1-8


1 Corinthians 7:1-5


Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:  It is good for a man not to touch a woman.  Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.  The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.   Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 


Be Blessed!



sister most of that text is speaking metaphorically drinking waters from your own cistern how can you interpret that to be oral sex ??


unbelievable allow me to repost something here and stop with the clichés 


There may not be a specific passage in the Bible on the subject of oral sex, but for sure scriptures leading to NOT to practice this.

There are neither specific scriptures on drinking too much coffee, watching too much or wrong TV programs, nor on smoking or doing drugs for that matter. Although these things are NOT good for you. It is also a matter of walking pure and in holiness unto the Lord.

1 Peter 1:15-16... but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in ALL your conduct, because it is written, "Be holy, for I am holy."

Do not use an excuse for unholy living.

If you are born-again and filled with the Holy Spirit, He will guide you into ALL truth. He will reveal what you should throw out of the house, or what to burn, what to do and not to do. Walk in the Spirit, not as they that are of this world, and you will not lust after the flesh.

1 Thessalonians 5:22, 23... Abstain from all appearance of evil. And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. (KJV)

If we start judging after our own understanding, saying this is alright and that isn't, we most likely are deceiving ourselves. Judge according to God's word, pay attention to His voice and the prompting of the Holy Spirit.

Let us just reason; our body parts have each a specific purpose; you're not walking on your hands; you're not sticking your food in your nose, but lower; you're using your nails to scratch, not your tongue; your anus is to defecate, not for what homosexuals do; your mouth is to eat with and is part of your digestive system. It is not for oral sex. The Creator has designed our body parts for specific functions.

To OK oral sexual activity on the scriptures in The Song of Solomon is absurd. If you interpret oral sex here it is because you "want" to read it. The Song of Solomon is a colorful poetic writing, which expresses the love for the spouse by elaborating on nature. Do you really think that this inspired Book of Songs, which also refers to Christ's Love for His Bride, or God's Love for Israel, should be interpreted on a carnal level? Or contains lustful passions? The Lord is a Holy God, let these thoughts be far from us. Be not deceived for God is not mocked.

Solomon 2 verse 7... (last part) Do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases...(repeated in 3:5 and 8:4) The significance of this refrain seems to be that love must be allowed to grow naturally, in its own time. It is not to be forced or given an artificial stimulus.

Christian couples have to practice holiness, self-control, self-discipline in any facet of their marriage, even in their sexual relationship. Because you are married, does not mean you are free to do whatever you like with your spouse. You still have to walk in holiness, you still have to exercise self discipline. Sexual enjoyment is given to lawful partners but should not escalate to lustful desires, which will bring one to sin. The bed should be kept honorable. In ALL we do, we should give praises unto the Lord, even in our sexual relationship with our spouse. Spouses should stimulate each other to please the Lord in this and to shun fleshly lusts.

Titus 2: 11, 12... For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men. Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world. (KJV)

1 John 2:16, 17... For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but who does the will of God abides forever.

James 1: 14, 15... But every man is tempted, when he is drawn of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust has conceived, it brings forth sin: and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.

Romans 13:14... But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof.

2 Peter 1: 4... Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these you might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.

Romans 6: 12... Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in the lusts thereof.

1 Peter 2: 11... Dearly beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts which wars against the soul.

What does the Word say about sodomites?

1 Cor. 6:9... Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites,

1 Tim 1:10... for fornicators, for sodomites, for kidnappers, for liars, for perjurers, and if there is any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine.

What is the definition of sodomy?

Sodomy \sa-de-me\ n 1 : sexual intercourse with a member of the same sex or with an animal 2 : noncoital and esp. anal or oral sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex. sodomize \sa-de-mz\ vb (C) 1995 Zane Publishing, Inc. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary (C) 1994 by Merriam-Webster, Incorporated.

Sodomy = unnatural carnal intercourse between man and woman (New Lexicon Webster's Encyclopeic Dictionary, and Dictionary of English Synonyms, Checkerbooks)

Sodomy... 1: anal copulation of one male with another. 2: anal or oral copulation with a member of the opposite sex. 3: Copulation with an animal. Reader's Digest Illustrated Encyclopedic Dictionary.

Sodomy is sodomy! Just because a male and female are married, does not mean that they can practice sodomy! What else does the Word say regarding sex and marriage? I believe that the Word says exactly what is means in the Scripture below, marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled, (I interpret this to mean having clean, enjoyable sex with your mate, but not by committing sodomy!).

Is God a respecter of persons? Does He condemn the sodomites who are unsaved, and allow the married Christian couple to commit sodomy and not sin? Never!

Paul says: Rom 6:1... What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?

Heb 13:4... Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

The definition of undefiled is: 283 amiantos (am-ee'-an-tos); from 1 (as a negative particle) and a derivative of 3392; unsoiled, i.e. (figuratively) pure: KJV-- undefiled.

283 amiantos= not defiled, unsoiled: free from that by which the nature of a thing is deformed and debased, or its force and vigor impaired.


Proverbs 25:28... Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control.

1 Corinthians 7: 5... so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7: 9... but if they cannot exercise self-control, ......

Galatians 6:8... Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

Romans 8 :13-14... For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.

For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are the sons of God.

Allow the Holy Spirit to do the work in your life, at any cost.

Romans 8:18... For I consider that the sufferings of the present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed to us.

Phil. 1:27... Only let your conduct be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of your affairs, that you stand fast in the spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel.

1 Timothy 6:11b-12... and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, gentleness.

Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, to which you were also called and have confessed the good confession in the presence of many witnesses.

There is a fine line between godly sexual relationship (between spouses) and perverted sexual activity. The first one is out of love, the last one is out of lust.

Love is of God, lust is of the carnal mind and of Satan.

God is the one who made sex and designed it to be enjoyed in the manner it was intended. Any different way is sexual perversion. Like anything whose proper function is abused will cause problems. Oral sex is not sexual intercourse in the sense of the word, but a sexual act, and it would fall under the Bible's prohibition of "porneia" ; sexual impurity. If oral sex is replacing genital sex it will be even more of an abomination unto the Lord. God has clearly designed male and female bodies for genital sexual relations with each other, not for oral and anal sex. Married couples should beware of substituting something else for that which God had designed at Creation.

We must consider God's creativity as our guide and principle that the male genital is designed for the female genital, just as food is for the stomach (1 Cor. 6:13). In this light the practice of oral and anal sex cannot be said to conform with God's design and should be regarded as deviations from His plan, which are sinful.

Oral sex is unholy and sin of lust, and Satan will be right there to reinforce this sinful behavior. Therefore practicing oral sex may eventually lead to further exploring of sexual release through other ways of perverted sex, i.e. sex toys, vibrators, internet sex, fantasy, sex videos, masturbation, pornography etc. This in turn will bring the person into sexual bondage through which sex becomes an addictive drive, and may reach compulsive behavioral levels. The craving for perverted sex will never be satisfied. Once arrived at the point for the need to satisfy the lust of their sexual drive one is trapped and will experience a vicious circle of an unsatisfied sexual relationship with their spouse; mutual love is gone and fleshly sex has taken over.

2 Corinthians 6:17 AV... Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you.

Leviticus 10:10 AV... And that ye may put difference between holy and unholy, and between unclean and clean;

Agreement between spouses to participate in oral sex does not make it right. It only shows that both do agree to give in to the lust of the flesh and to unclean sexual activity. There are unclean spirits associated with this act. Some of you may rather call this frigidity, but let me tell you friend, learn first what holiness is, then we'll talk further.

If Satan cannot destroy Christian marriages through divorce or adultery, he'll try to get through the backdoor of the Christian marriage, which is through the bedroom door.

Satan's intent is to destroy which is not so visible for the eye, but which is spiritual and involves man's soul. He comes with a host of unclean spirits and tries to attack in the core.

Many Christian couples do not or will not recognize this, or they will not depart from their fleshly lusts. As you can see, one has to make a choice whom to serve.

Satan says: "Now, don't you talk about your sex life to anybody, it's none of their business."

Why do you think he is saying this? he will not be revealed... so he can stay and keep his domain. That is why oral sex is hushed in the Christian community. Satan does not want to leave his territory. When oral sex in a Christian marriage is condoned the door is left wide open for other bizarre and unclean sexual activity, such as anal sex etc.

Ephesians 5:3-6... But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.

There is also another issue: Although God meant for people to enjoy the sexual act, He also had the purpose of "being fruitful and multiplying" in mind. Oral sex does not meet this criteria.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18... Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

You should be able to praise God in all situations and circumstances and I am convinced that this is impossible while practicing oral sex. This should tell us enough.

The Lord says: Be Holy for I am Holy.

Galatians 5:24... And those who are Christ's have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

Strive to please the Lord, even in your sexual relationship with your spouse.

Sacrifice your old self and its lusts.


1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 KJV

Furthermore then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God, so ye would abound more and more. For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus.

For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:

That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified.

For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.

He therefore that despiseth , despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us His Holy Spirit.

Ephesians 4:17-24 KJV

This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk , in the vanity of their mind, Having the understanding darkened , being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart: Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.

But ye have not so learned Christ; If so be that ye have heard Him, and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.

As we dedicate our lives more and more to the Lord and sell out to Jesus Christ, it certainly will reflect on our relationship with others. If spouses share their intimacy with God in their marriage, it will soon effect their love toward each other, which includes also their sexual relationship. The Fruits of The Holy Spirit will become apparent in their marriage.

The closer we live to God the more beautiful and holy the relationship becomes between spouses. It becomes a foretaste of the heavenly joy, happiness and fulfillment, which is awaiting us in eternity with our Lord.

Psalm 19:14... Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in Thy sight, O LORD, my Strength, and my Redeemer.

Quotation below is taken from a pamphlet by Rev. Robert J. Buschmiller

First, oral sex is not natural. It is contrary to natural law. If oral sex is OK, then are anal sex or nasal sex also OK? There must be some natural parameters to sexual expression. Otherwise, we have little reason not to permit homosexual activity or even sex between humans and animals. Something must be natural, and therefore other things unnatural.

Second, I have been asked to counsel over a hundred married couples about oral sex as foreplay. After some time of discernment, not one has maintained that oral sex was a true expression of love. The motivation behind oral sex is often lust. The spouse is not the focus of the sexual foreplay; rather, sexual stimulation is the focus. It could almost be said that one spouse is having sex with sex rather than with the other spouse. This focus on sex rather than on the spouse is a poison to love and marriage.

Pray about this: "A man will reap only what he sows. If he sows in the field of the flesh, he will reap a harvest of corruption; but if his seed-ground is the Spirit, he will reap everlasting life" (Gal 6:7-8).


If that is what the Holy Spirit is telling you, don't do it...and allow everyone else to be led by scripture and the Holy Spirit.  Blessings!
amen but christ and the spirit has one mind the spirit wont tell some to do and some not to do!

you did not even read the thing here are some more biblical texts, read them then u will stop believing oral or anal sex is ok  in a marriage. If you will then u will be guided by the Holy Spirit 


1 Cor 6:12-20
12 You say, "I am allowed to do anything"—but not everything is good for you. And even though "I am allowed to do anything," I must not become a slave to anything. 13 You say, "Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food." (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can't say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies. 14 And God will raise us from the dead by his power, just as he raised our Lord from the dead.
15 Don't you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! 16 And don't you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, "The two are united into one." 17 But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.
18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don't you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.Holy Bible, New Living Translation



2 Cor 12:211 Yes, I am afraid that when I come again, God will humble me in your presence. And I will be grieved because many of you have not given up your old sins. You have not repented of your impurity, sexual immorality, and eagerness for lustful pleasure.Holy Bible, New Living Translation 


Gal 5:16-20
16 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won't be doing what your sinful nature craves. 17 The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions. 18 But when you are directed by the Spirit, you are not under obligation to the law of Moses.
19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, Holy Bible, New Living Translation ®, copyright © 1996, 2004 by Tyndale Charitable Trust. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers. All rights reserved.



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