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Is there anything wrong with sexual touches within a relationship before marriage (but sexual intercourse do not take place)?

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A big NO

Thank you for relying  Jason 

but I am asking you kindly to justify your answer using the bible. 

If I had said yes would you have asked me to justify my answer? 

Yes I would 

Have a look at Matt.5:27,28.

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Jesus gives the principle that sin originates in the mind and that the act is the result of what originates in the mind. So, the sexual touching is a result of the lust that is in the mind. What you are asking is, to be honest, how far can I go before I have crossed the line to commit sin? But the sin has already been conceived in the mind. The fornication has already been conceived in the mind and it then becomes a question of trying to pander to lust whilst excusing the lust by saying well at least I haven't done "it".

I understand that this may be an academic question but you must remember that Jesus gave principles which one can then apply to everyday life.

Lastly, 1 Thessalonians 5:22,  Abstain from all appearance of evil.

I hope that this helps.

Happy Sabbath JohnB

Thanks for your respond

You are asking whether it's ok to do things only married people should do. This reminds me of a documentary I saw on BBC about virgin Muslim girls who were engaging in alternative sex to protect or keep their virginity.

Why would you want to engage in such activities if you are not married? For pleasure.

I could come up with many bible verses and quotes from the SOP against such practices but would you axacce them. 

Did you know that kissing is also forbidden?

Happy Sabbath Jason,

sorry your respond is of no help

but thanks 

sorry about that. You can also ask your pastor. wc 

Dear (BESS), 
I was shown that you were in danger of being under the full control of the great adversary of souls. You have been opposed to restraint, have been headstrong, willful, and stubborn, and have made your parents much trouble. They have erred. Your father has unwisely petted you. You have taken advantage of this and have become deceptive. You have received approbation which you did not deserve. {LYL 57.1}
...
You have received incorrect ideas in regard to girls’ and boys’ associating together, and it has been very congenial to your mind to be in the company of the boys. You have been injured by reading love stories and romances, and your mind has been fascinated by impure thoughts. Your imagination has become corrupt, until you seem to have no power to control your thoughts. Satan leads you captive as he pleases. {LYL 57.3}
Your conduct has not been chaste, modest, or becoming. You have not had the fear of God before your eyes. My dear girl, unless you stop just where you are ruin is surely before you. Cease your day-dreaming, your castle-building. Stop your thoughts from running in the channel of folly and corruption. {LYL 57.4}
If you indulge in vain imaginations, permitting your mind to dwell upon impure thoughts, you are, in a degree, as guilty before God as if your thoughts were carried into action. All that prevents the action is the lack of opportunity. {LYL 57.5}
You will have to become a faithful sentinel over your eyes, ears, and all your senses if you would control your mind and prevent vain and corrupt thoughts from staining your soul. {LYL 57.6}
The imagination must be positively and persistently controlled if the passions and affections are made subject to reason, conscience, and character. You are in danger, for you are just upon the point of sacrificing your eternal interests at the altar of passion. Passion is obtaining positive control of your entire being—passion of what quality? of a base, destructive nature. {LYL 57.7}
I appeal to you to stop where you are. Advance not another step in your headstrong, wanton course; for before you are misery and death. Unless you exercise self-control in regard to your passions and affections you will surely bring yourself into disrepute with all around you, and will bring upon your character disgrace which will last while you live. {LYL 58.1}
I do not consider your case hopeless; if I did, my pen would not be tracing these lines. In the strength of God, you can redeem the past. You may even now gain a moral excellence so that your name may be associated with things pure and holy. You can be elevated. God has provided for you the necessary helps. {LYL 58.2}
You have thought so much of yourself, of your own smartness, that it has led you to such affectation and vanity as to make you almost a fool. You have a deceitful tongue, which has indulged in misrepresentation and falsehood. Oh, my dear girl, if you could only arouse, if your slumbering, deadened conscience could be awakened, and you could cherish a habitual impression of the presence of God, and keep yourself subject to the control of an enlightened, wakeful conscience, you would be happy yourself and a blessing to your parents, whose hearts you now wound. You could be an instrument of righteousness to your associates. You need a thorough conversion, and without it you are in the gall of bitterness, and in the bonds of iniquity. {LYL 58.3}
Put marriage out of your girl’s head. You are in no sense fit for this. You need years of experience before you can be qualified to understand the duties, and take up the burdens, of married life. {LYL 58.4}
You may become a prudent, modest, virtuous girl, but not without earnest effort. You must watch, you must pray, you must meditate, you must investigate your motives and your actions. Closely analyze your feelings and your acts. Would you, in the presence of your father, perform an impure action? No, indeed. But you do this in the presence of your heavenly Father, who is so much more exalted, so holy, so pure. Yes; you corrupt your own body in the presence of the pure, sinless angels, and in the presence of Christ; and you continue to do this irrespective of conscience; irrespective of the light and warnings given you. {LYL 58.5}
Yield yourself to Christ without delay; He alone, by the power of His grace, can redeem you from ruin. He alone can bring your moral and mental powers in a state of health. Your heart may be warm with the love of God; your understanding, clear and mature, your conscience, illuminated, quick, and pure; your will, upright and sanctified, subject to the control of the Spirit of God. You can make yourself what you choose. If you will now face rightabout, cease to do evil and learn to do well, then you will be happy indeed; you will be successful in the battles of life, and rise to glory and honor in the better life than this. “Choose you this day whom ye will serve.” {LYL 59.1}
Ellen G. White.
Letter in Testimonies for the Church 2:558-565

Bess,

I would have to say yes and no to your question.  So, let me get to the no part first. As human being we gravitate toward physical touching, it is one way we show our affection for one another. Here you say sexual touches within a relationship before marriage. Not exactly sure what you mean, but I can use my imagination and experience to say this too is sexual intercourse.

The reason I say no is the sex drive is influenced by biological, psychological and social factors. And as a human being we are inclined to act upon these, it’s totally normal.

The yes part of my answer is this. As a Christian we are called to live our live on a higher plane; this is not easy. In the book of Galatians, the apostle Paul says a few things;

GOD'S WORD® Translation

Let me explain further. Live your life as your spiritual nature directs you. Then you will never follow through on what your corrupt nature wants.

This doesn’t mean that one will never have a desire for sex, God provides a means for this as 1 Corinthians 7:9 points out.

But if you don't have enough self-control, then go ahead and get married. After all, it is better to marry than to burn with desire.

Bess, 

If you don't believe that sister White was not a prophet or that her writings hold no authority then this passage may be helpful

1 Corinthians 7 New King James Version (NKJV)

Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:

It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.

But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

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