Should Married Couples Merge Finances or Keep Them Separate?
Posing the same question in a discussion that is going on elsewhere:
"I am admittedly not married yet (it's coming *smile*) but I believe there needs to be BOTH: A joint account for household expenses and bills and some money that is non-discretionary. However, I do believe that the personal account should have an agreed amount monthly (some might call it an allowance) and not be secret. What say you?"
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Tags: bank, bills, couple, man, marriage, money, woman
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Permalink Reply by Kristina Pauly on -
@Quacinda
Paul did not imply in the slightest that "we should focus on 'what am I going to get out of this' [relationship]" In fact if anything he was expressing the fact that a marriage is a relationship in which nothing should be withheld... Not because of a "I want what you have attitude" as you have attempted to portray it...
It seems that what you are failing to see here it how our relationship with our spouse is supposed to be a representation of our relationship with God...Would you withhold anything you have from God? He has certainly not withheld anything from you.... Our friend Paul was simply pointing out ironically the same thing that the apostle Paul pointed out... That we have a give and take relationship with our spouse just as we do with our maker, so there is no room for withholding...
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Permalink Reply by Paul Macevle on -
Quacinda, Please learn to answer the questions. You always hide behind a match stick. Everyone can see you. You never read the posts i make, maybe you brows them. Please read, that will help you make informed decision. With brotherly kindness, please answer my questions!
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Permalink Reply by Quacinda Jodyne Topkok on -
Paul, I don't care much to be defined by others; and if you ask I will consider a more detailed reply; what exactly did you want my comment on? Would you care to quote it for me?
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Permalink Reply by Vincent Woolsey on
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I haven't read through all the replies, just kind of hit and miss, but I think it's a matter of teamwork. Find a system that works for the couple and go with it in love and trust. Just my humble opinion. God bless!
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Permalink Reply by Sarah Sulton on -
Very good opinion, Vincent!
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Thanks Sarah. So when's this wedding coming about?
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Permalink Reply by Sarah Sulton on
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=)
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Permalink Reply by Paul Macevle on
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Sarah... You'll understand me someday.
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Permalink Reply by Uncle Murray j on -
soo many try to runamok in here,, why not take your time to fully read what is written and at least the replies before and after each statement?
THEIR i s no contest to see how much or how many times u can reply is their ? Be to the point and answer a question directly and honestly and why leave out a reply someone else has made that is from the heart and good council?
I see lately in here a conflict that arises when self arises and critisim takes place for no other reason than u can not understand the lesson or thought content and it is most grieving.
So few actually read this forum and add to it what is needed to be helpful . In times past their was more truths added and not just opinions and speculation as in todays forum. The topics are so many times repetive over and over again basically the same just rewritten differently and some of the top writers only write to be on top.
SAD actually it has come down to this.PAUL you do not even know this woman Quacinda personally do you.// ? Have u actually ever talked to her before 1 on 1 that u can stand in her shoes and say who she is and what she wrirtes tha t everyone knows she does not read what u write?/
This is not being Christ like nor is it a true statement for u do not know everyone in here either do you. ? Be fair and ask her personally then quietly and not publically . IS That not fairer?
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Permalink Reply by Paul Macevle on
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Do you know me Uncle? Please....! Don't do that, you are old just by looking at your picture. I hope you say grown things. Stop attacking me.
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Permalink Reply by OSING on -
May I reitirate what I had written earlier in this forum, I let my wife keep the household finances, they make better planners. Although at present, here in the Philippines, I receive monthly pension through the bank's ATM card. I let Rachel make the withdrawals for our household consumption. It works much better that way. There is something in the feminine intuition that make for much better house financial planner. And, around the couples which I have had around in all places I have stayed in, the wives are the household "financial managers." GOD CREATED THAT WAY, (although there are some exceptions.) Remember, God had officiated the very first marriage in Eden, and it is better to follow God's plan, for the good of the households.
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Permalink Reply by Paul Macevle on
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Osing, great post. I'll follow in your footsteps. I love it.
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