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What is your opinion on the Church disfellowshipping a member because of pregnancy outside of marriage?

From a personal standpoint, all of us have sinned and come short of the glory of God and to disfellowship a member because of pregnancy is throwing them back into the world instead of loving them and encouraging them in their spiritual life and recommitting themselves back to the Lord. Don't take me wrong, I am not encouraging the sin!!!

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Love the sinner. Hate the sin.

Yeah. Disfellowshipping is not a good way to love and witness to them although I am very confident that many others here will follow up and disagree.

The only thing I would try to tell this person is that while some may caste her out ... God does not. He still loves her. She is still saved. So ... just consider the source and move on.
Disfellowingshipping someone is not intended to send the message that God doesn't love them. Study 1 Cor. 5.

It has two main purposes: it sends the message to the person that his/her spiritual condition is serious and needs close attention; and it tells the community and the church that the sin cannot be allowed to do harm to the church. Both the Bible and the Spirit of Prophecy teach that the church is held responsible for sins it knows about and does nothing about.

From the Church Manual, p. 189--

“If wrongs are apparent among His people, and if the servants of
God pass on indifferent to them, they virtually sustain and justify the
sinner, and are alike guilty and will just as surely receive the displeasure
of God; for they will be made responsible for the sins of the guilty. In
vision I have been pointed to many instances where the displeasure of
God has been incurred by a neglect on the part of His servants to deal
with the wrongs and sins existing among them. Those who have excused
these wrongs have been thought by the people to be very amiable and
lovely in disposition, simply because they shunned to discharge a plain
Scriptural duty. The task was not agreeable to their feelings; therefore
they avoided it.”—Testimonies, vol. 3, pp. 265, 266.

Unconsecrated Resist Church Discipline—“There are many who do
not have the discretion of Joshua and who have no special duty to search
out wrongs and to deal promptly with the sins existing among them. Let
not such hinder those who have the burden of this work upon them; let
them not stand in the way of those who have this duty to do. Some make
it a point to question and doubt and find fault because others do the work
that God has not laid upon them. These stand directly in the way to
hinder those upon whom God has laid the burden of reproving and
correcting prevailing sins in order that His frown may be turned away
from His people. Should a case like Achan’s be among us, there are
many who would accuse those who might act the part of Joshua in
searching out the wrong, of having a wicked, faultfinding spirit. God is
not to be trifled with and His warnings disregarded with impunity by a
perverse people.
“I was shown that the manner of Achan’s confession was similar to
the confessions that some among us have made and will make. They hide
their wrongs and refuse to make a voluntary confession until God
searches them out, and then they acknowledge their sins. A few persons
pass on in a course of wrong until they become hardened. They may even
know that the church is burdened, as Achan knew that Israel were made
weak before their enemies because of his guilt. Yet their consciences do
not condemn them. They will not relieve the church by humbling their
proud, rebellious hearts before God and putting away their wrongs.
God’s displeasure is upon His people, and He will not manifest His
power in the midst of them while sins exist among them and are fostered
by those in responsible positions.
You have some good points and well supported by the Spirit of Prophecy. Serious sins need to be dealt with seriously. Just because fornication is so tolerated in society does not mean that the church should be lackadaisacal about it.
Amen brother!! my sentiments exactly. Once an individual is connected with God and truly is standing on solid rock if he or she should yeild to temptation and fall then it is the duty of the church to acknowledge open sin and give rebuke. the person who commits the sin should be humble enough and take self out the equaion and receive their rebuking with great humilty. when people can reach the state of forgetting self and call sin by its rightlul name then even if they are disfollowshipped that should not deter them to continue their walk with God. If this hinders their relationship with God in any way then self is still in them and they have not seen the sinfullness of their sin.
Gabriel rodriguez de Espinoza

I don't know where you get the idea that the church is supposed to be a hospital for sinners. In this judgement hour we are living in when probation is almost at a close, when Jesus is about to make his appearance that is what you will tell the people....
What if someone robs a bank?

What if someone beats up an old lady and steals here purse?

Should they be disfellowshipped?

Of course they should. Why is it even a question? 'nuff sed
Was the Holy Spirit wrong to inspire Paul to write 1 Cor. 5 and Matthew 18: 17?

Check out these Ellen White quotes--

I saw that the messengers and the church must have compassion with some, making a difference. Now the messengers of God must seek wisdom and know how to treat each individual case. Not all must be treated alike. By close examination it will be seen that individual cases differ. Some are to be borne with longer than others, but if one is living in disobedience to the commandments of God, the church must act and must separate them from them. And for other sins it will often be necessary to disfellowship souls if they continue in their sins; yet great care should be used and great patience and forbearance exercised. {9MR 196.4}

I saw that Brother_____had tried to do right and just as well as he knew how, yet he has failed at times. I saw that judgment and caution must be used. The messengers must all move out unitedly and with decision and energy, yet they must have meekness and patience, and in love for souls fulfill their duty. They must all go among the people with the power and Spirit of God with them, and must have energy that will arouse the stupid and those who are off their watch and cause them to awake and get ready. {9MR 197.1}

Prepare! Prepare! should be sounded in the ears of the people. For the great day of God's wrath is coming, and who shall be able to stand; and while messengers cry to God to prepare and get ready, they must be awake and have energy themselves and let it tell to all that hear them that they are standing between the living and the dead. Preachers and people who believe the third angel's message should set a holy, lively example. Their conversation and actions should show that they are looking for the appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ.--Manuscript 1, 1855, pp. 1,2. (Untitled, undated.)
I think it has to do with several important factors such as

1) the damage the sin does to Christ and the church, as, for instance, when the sin is open and public;

2) the fact that the person has no intention of repenting of his sin and turning away from it;

3) that the church has appealed to him to cease from a certain sinful activity but he refuses to listen, even though he recognizes that it is wrong to do, making the sin a deliberate, willful rebellion against God;

4) that it sets a bad example for the church and particularly the young people and the new members;

5) and that the individual does not seem to be aware of the seriousness of the situation, in terms of his soul's salvation.
i would like to have some help from everyone here and some tolerance with me about language and culture,please,cause i come from so different idiom and the english its no easy for me! i am beginer in this language and culture too!thanks a lot for this!
i remember in one normal procedure if the pregnant one got married,not need re-baptized but if not marry,baptize again! some thing like this!someone maybe can clarify this point,please!thanks
1 John 5:16 If any man see his brother sin a sin [which is] not unto death, he shall ask, and he shall give him life for them that sin not unto death. There is a sin unto death: I do not say that he shall pray for it.
DIS FELOWSHIPING is present in Churchs Manual! and the motives that i can remember you can check it in Reply by Jim on February 12, 2009 at 8:36pm!
its a normal procedure!need be careful and receptive at return from that person and do every effort for bring back! its no every case but this kind pregnancy it is! i regret disappoint somebody here!
the man or church its not a judge! but need proceed like this as well!where are our pastor ?come please and shout out here! help us finish this topic!


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