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A Woman is Beautiful when she is submissive to her Husband or when she has a SUBMISSIVE attitude.


 1 Peter 3:5-65 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. NIV



1 Peter 3:3-5
3 Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.Holy Bible, New Living Translation



Ps 45:1111 For your royal husband delights in your beauty;honor him, for he is your lord. Holy Bible, New Living Translation


Prov 31:30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. NIV



This is  what happens ot those with only external beauty 


Ezek 16:15-16
15 "'But you trusted in your beauty and used your fame to become a prostitute. You lavished your favors on anyone who passed by and your beauty became his.   16 You took some of your garments to make gaudy high places, where you carried on your prostitution. Such things should not happen, nor should they ever occur.NIV


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Amen Brother If all Men and Women would read their bibles then we would have a happy family with no Divorces. Everyone must perform their role, a woman cannot perform the role of a Man and vice versa.

Hi Don, grace and peace.


Nice thoughts, Scripturally sound, Amen to that. Praise God.


Blessings, Scott.

 well the way i see it if their character in the way they act is right would it not reflect this also on their appearance well at least to a degree. I know many beautiful women that have this outward appearancwe  so it noticable but inside their hearts they ugly?.

I saying simply this submissiveness does not mean u are a slave  it just shows the love u have for someone openly and if u do not have that kind of love  you can not fake it  for long for it will be seen and heard too. .

May  I add that to a man if his wife is going to do as she pleases weather or not he agrees to it  grieves  his inner self   and their can be no rel joy in the marriage and if a wife persists in having her own way and yet professing she yeilds to Gods will she is but deceiving themselves..

 True beauty is seen in the lives of what we do not what we look like on our outward appearance .  yes we can wear a gr8 big  grin on our face and have the appearance we are rightous and pious but the Lord can not sanction our behavior or over-look it the consecuenes  of doing your own will maynot be seen right off but inevitably  later  and it may take a few years to catch up to you  but you will pay derly for this  pretense! . 

 WE had last week a pastors wife  from the islands of  ST. LUCIA  originally speak to us  on fathers day   her message  was not only addresed to the fathers but to the wives also, her message was so powerful in that it strips away any pretense / ,, wives that in front of others hold their husbands arm but in private   have no  respect or love for their man and do not even sleep with him. THIS  pastors wife  was  far from being beautiful in her appearance  but honestly speaking she looked  beautiful  because of  her actions in how she held herself .  . Ido not want to say anymore less  Iget in trouble  but ladies  do not think your actions toward your man  you said  I do too is not seen by others .

Good stuff Murray
Proverbs 11:16
A kindhearted woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth. 

Proverbs 12:4
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones 

Proverbs 14:1
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. 

Proverbs 19:13
A foolish son is his father's ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping. 

Proverbs 21:19
Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife. 

Proverbs 31: 9b-31
The Wife of Noble Character
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
6 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
"Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. 
Colossians 3:18
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord 

1 Peter 3:1-6
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands, even those who refuse to accept the Good News. Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words. They will be won overYour beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight . That is the way the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands. For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, when she called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do. 

1 Timothy 2:9-10
I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. 

1 Timothy 3:11
In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything. 

Titus 2:3-5
Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
beauty is anything fair to look upon but it is vanity! the heart if it is decorated with the word of God may remain beautiful forever but physical beauty will change!

Sometimes there are women who are actually not that attractive, but after a while you find yourself drawn to them as friends, mentors, and for you guys as potential partners.  Inner beauty shines outward and can't be hidden, however, the bible says that women should submit themselves to their husbands "in the Lord"

We did a serious study on this once and "in the Lord" means that God is to be consulted first, if what a husband asked, or suggests is outside of a womans duty to the Lord, she does not have to submit.

EG White goes on to say that if a woman submits to every suggestion of her husband she will loose her individuality and eventually his respect.

Christian countries enjoyed peace for a long time because the relationship of marriage was looked upon as an equal arrangement and where the husband respected the wife for her abilities and the wife gave due respect to her husband.  Yet, if a man is not worthy of respect and is vile and angry or demeaning or even as AH says: morose the wife will get sickly and suffer.  No, a woman must submit but only as is fit in the Lord.  Anyone who wants a submissive doormat may as well become a muslim as the Leader of Musim in Australia admitted recently that the muslim religion was a religion to force submission.No a christian husband will respect and love his wife and

value her abilities and opinion and respect her as the homemaker and mother and wife.  AH says that the husband is the houseband and that he is to support and uphold the Mothers word as law and support her.  That doesn't sound like a doormat does it, it sounds like a man who values and upholds his wifes abilities so that she is able to be the Mother and Wife that God intended her to be.

The three things that humans crave is acceptance, love, and to be valued.  Therefore a man who is in Christ will give these things to his wife and she in return will respect and honour him.  It's a two way street.  Beauty is in love and respect.



Nourishing a Sinful Discontent—Very many husbands and children who find nothing attractive at home, who are continually greeted by scolding and murmuring, seek comfort and amusement away from home, in the dramshop or in other forbidden scenes of pleasure. The wife and mother, occupied with her household cares, frequently becomes thoughtless of the little courtesies that make home pleasant to the husband and children, even if she avoids dwelling upon her peculiar vexations and difficulties in their presence. While she is absorbed in preparing something to eat or to wear, the husband and sons go in and come out as strangers. {AH 4.685}
While the mistress of the household may perform her outward duties with exactitude, she may be continually crying out against the slavery to which she is doomed, and exaggerate her responsibilities and restrictions by comparing her lot with what she styles the higher life of woman.... While she is fruitlessly yearning for a different life, she is nourishing a sinful discontent and making her home very unpleasant for her husband and children.2 {AH 4.686}


he Selfish and Morose Husband—Brother B is not of a temperament to bring sunshine into his family. Here is a good place for him to begin to work. He is more like a cloud than a beam of light. He is too selfish to speak words of approval to the members of his family, especially to the one of all others who should have his love and tender respect. He is morose, overbearing, dictatorial; his words are frequently cutting, and leave a wound that he does not try to heal by softening spirit, acknowledging his faults, and confessing his wrongdoings.... {AH 4.621}
Brother B should soften; he should cultivate refinement and courtesy. He should be very tender and gentle toward his wife, who is his equal in every respect; he should not utter a word that would cast a shadow upon her heart. He should begin the work of reformation at home; he should cultivate affection and overcome the coarse, harsh, unfeeling, and ungenerous traits of his disposition.6 {AH 4.622}
The husband and father who is morose, selfish, and overbearing is not only unhappy himself, but he casts gloom upon all the inmates of his home. He will reap the result in seeing his wife dispirited and sickly and his children marred with his own unlovely temper.7 {AH 4.623}

yes, this is the very quote I was thinking of regading the husband, but as for the one at the top relative to the wife, the point you are making is????


If a woman behaves like that, to me there is something missing, sounds like a woman who was not getting any assistance and sunk into drugery and ended up being robotic in her role.

there are a thousand nay million more quotes that show that a woman is often left unassisted and falls into drugery and end up in an early grave while the father and children sit idle....

you could search till you lose your eyesight to find quotes ..... they are both for and against... but i agree with Sophia Loren in this point "there is nothing that makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is loved...."  sophia Loren

One can only wonder what it was that started her on that murmuring track in the first place....

lack of love in a male or female heart brings discontent... all can find love in Christ and then shine it out to others.




We love because He first loved us. Reminds me of five stages of commitment I recently read about; the fully committed heart is beautiful, and the fully committed life is beautiful.. the heart is where it belongs..

Quacinda, what a beautiful name.  thanks for those words, they were very beautiful. I feel you are really getting a lot of blessings out of your book.



Thanks Dee


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