Why do I see so many SDA marriages fail when they are professed to be a match made-in heaven? When they have done everything right before getting married - like (not to have sex before marriage, reading Christian marriage books, studying each others character, doing their research, going to pre-marital counselling etc)? - Why do SDA couples who are supposed to have it 'figured out' end up either in a dead marriage - separation - divorce?
I have read quite a lot of Christian marriage books (that my parents bought from camp meeting) and they teach all these things....But I want to know what is your opinion .. Why do you think Matt 5:32 & Hebrew 13:4 is ignored when it comes to different situations in marriage? Have we forgotten that we are not battling against the flesh but forces of darkness? Has it got to do with our spiritual commitment with God?
The Devil hates to see a Christian family. Regardless of one's denomination or faith, you are not exempt.We lose focus on putting/keeping God between the husband and wife. We get distracted and focus on self. Our eyes have been turn away from Jesus. I beleive all marriages have hope of reconcilation but pride prevents that from happening. Its only until after the fact that one realizes divorce was the wrong choice but sadly by that time its too late.
HI FLORENCE YES marriages are under attack by forces we cant see and many times more than u or I are willing to admit we help them by wanting our own way and not fully listening to the needs of our mate.
many times self that was once surrendered or at least thought to have been rises up its head again and says I want this I have to have this and what u want does not matter. jason why did u not just give a answer that u know of? .
Florence is it possible that we harden our heart and shut off our emotions when something we do not want is brought to our attention .. CAN a wife can a husband choose not to , for whatever reason they think to themselves is important ,show their love by their actions .. have we become so absorbed in what we think is important that love which is showed by our actions is left on the back burner to simmer or to die out maybe? . are we to bz talking about love we do not actually show it to the one that is most important in our human life then?.
I when i get the chance like to listen to radio broadcasts dealing with love and marriage and i assimilate what Ihear better than what I just read .. Are we too proud to ask our mate what makes them happy and will they be too proud or stubborn to admit they like a particular way of doing things and by this manner we learn more about each others love language?/
IS not loving opening up to another and letting their inner self be known? WHEN U SAY I do did u actually mean I wont or maybe if i feel like it ?
I am saddened to have read this topic but Im eager to share my opinions, too, as one of my cousins' marriage ended all too soon , when theyre even both Adventists.
Yes,and no one can ever think that it would happen to them. Theyve been on for at least 7 yrs.To be with someone for such a long time,is really something.
I think that prophecies are slowly fulfilled. Its written (in the bible). Something like "people will get into marriage, and then later giving up on marriage". Marriage now is not treated seriously. It has become a trend. As a Finnish friend told me that in their country, its "why not get married when you can divorce".
I have more to tell you...but next time... I have to run some errands at the moment.
ok, im back.
I hate to continue this as I, myself, am not yet married. And I dont wish to get married just to end up divorced later in life.-heheh. But I dont believe that every good opinion comes from experience. . I mean, look at the obgyne. Theyre very good at taking care of pregnant people (what to do),but these obgynies are not pregnant.Theyre very good in pregnancy thing because they study this kind of field.I hope you get what I mean
THE QUESTION IS "WHY", but my answers are not "BECAUSE", but I hope you see the sense I try to...u know... (blink blink)
But anyway, Im still alive (God gave me this another day to live. I believe someone needs me--heheh LOL!_)
I think people are right when they say "when in love, it should be felt in the heart & shaken by the mind".
-It means we be CAREFUL .If someone loves you,find out how he/she really spells ILOVEYOU; try to get to know this person, his/her family,his God (what kind), his/her music,and dont be in a hurry to get married. Never even think about it if not SURE. .
Love is not Blind and should not be blind if youre not yet married .Meaning if your gf or bf shows something inappropriate or strange or not in accordance to your "moral" standards, KICK HIM/HER in the butt at once!!! lol! Never ever cover her/his faults in front of your family.THIS IS ONE OF THE MAIN FACTORS THAT I Saw AT MY COUSIN'S now BROKEN MARRIAGE (When a person is inlove,he/she tends to choose this person over his/her family (AND OH, before I forget: NEVER EVER EXCHANGE YOUR FAMILY FOR JUST 1 PERSON..LADIES & GENTLEMEN --our MOTHERS(fathers too-heh),i mean, PARENTS(this includes grandmas & grandpas) always knows whats best ! (as written in the bible,"the greatest education a man could get is being under the feet of the elders) --eheheh. In other words, dont be secretive,seek advice from older people.
But once you get married--- I think itll be the time,to act blind (sometimes) & deaf (sometimes,too--heheh) just to save "the marriage" (for the sake of the "family":, esp the CHILDREN)
Hehehe, can somebody tell me Im just being silly? MMMM< I feel like sharing all the time .SMILE!
QUACINDA REPLIED VERY WELL OK? lets get some information form one that has been divorced and been through hell and back possibly persay. Are their not some adventist that even born into a adventist family and are disfunctional to say the least? let me touch on something that is real here ok?
Are not many that born into the adventist faith about the same as those in Christs days thinking to themselves they just fine ? Do they not also have a persona of respectability and godliness too? You can have daily evening and morning worship and do this every day for 30 years or longer and how much of this is a tradition u become accustomed to doing? ,
Their are those that recite the morning watch n pray to the lord faithfully and keep the SABBTAH HOLY but when it comes down to obeying the spirit of the law their u fail miserably and your dress is like the world your music too is like the world and when it comes to obediance in full like when diet is concerned or even the manner in which u dress or dont dress in some cases noone can reach u without a fight
IS this delusional for the Pharisees them selves the religious rulers paid tithe on everything the y recieved even spices and yet when pointed out truths they refused t o see it brought murder to their hearts too..
tell me then cant heir not be both Good AN the evil in many hearts and that which is actually surrendered , meaning in my mind when something u have noot fully seen is brought up u do not say , oh it not important , will it not cause u discomfort to continue in the same manner? .
I neve r ever will say I have been perfected or when i hear a truth i say it not important.. It MAY TAKE SOME TIME AND I may have to go back again and again over the same ground before i accept it fully but I DO NOT WANT TO fail God continuously knowing i AM WRONG.
I do not want to be so proud I can not say I am sorry forgive me and show it by what i do..
COME ON now if u stepping on my foot and u say i am sorry it ok but if u continue to step on my foot and i ask u please your hurting me what must you do to show your sorrow? , , ARE U KNOWINGLY causing pain to your wife are u knowingly causing your husband pain by your action or inaction and when they bring it up will u continue to make excuses for doing so? . If it causes the tears to come running down their cheek will it make a difference or will u harden your hard and say,, ;; it does not matter?