I see a lot of divorce and separation status ...
What is the reason all this happened?
I believe that God does not allow divorce case.
But there may be some reason this all happened ...
First of all, no matter what view one takes on the issue of divorce, it is important to remember Malachi 2:16: “I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.” According to the Bible, marriage is a lifetime commitment. “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19:6). God realizes, though, that since marriages involve two sinful human beings, divorces are going to occur. In the Old Testament, He laid down some laws in order to protect the rights of divorcees, especially women (Deuteronomy 24:1-4). Jesus pointed out that these laws were given because of the hardness of people’s hearts, not because they were God’s desire (Matthew 19:8).
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, that He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things–that she might be holy and faultless. Even so husbands should love their wives as (being in a sense) their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church. Because we are members (parts) of His body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning (the relation of) Christ and the church. However, let each man of you (without exception) love his wife (being in a sense) his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband–that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him and loves and admires him exceedingly. Ephesians 5: 25-33
I AM SORRY to see so little responce t this Post. Maybe it because this topic is something I have t odeal with personally and the Yes Pain it causes is fresh.. Their so much divorce and sepperation for the reason that the Hearts of so many today even in the church Have gone COLD.. They think Marriage is all about self and their ( Happiness ) alone.
Yes marriage was designed by God to have us Happy but happiness that is lasting does not mean it all about self..True happiness IS patient with others mistakes . You do not want to think about just what it is that makes me happy perspnally it is also about serving your mate n being pleasing t them..
When u look beyond just your own wants and be a blessing to not just your mate but reach out n be a friend towards others sincerly wanting to be their friend it brings about a chnage that is seen not just in your own heart n mind but in those around u also//
Listen up Happiness is something we share and u know your imperfect for the Bible teels us this and would u not want someoe u love and care for overlook your mistakes ? Why is it then when they make a choice that not right u have to be so hard on them and sooooo many in their actions show no Grace or compassion ?
Ihave a friend that married a much younger woman she is a corrections officer that makes alot of money well anyway in the world we live in women tend t spend before the y think it out clearly the bills the y will have to pay for or keep paying for Later to satisfy their want of today.// .He told me though u discuss things openly together and when u agreed on something and your mate forgets to remember ha !! U do not shout at them u just have to remind them of your agreement and that it has to be stuck too and do your best to keep a budget u can afford each month for money problems do the most damage to marriages in the world we live in Now..
He told me this that when u lie down in bed together all the disagreements u have had should be laid t o rest n not brought up and although He and his wife are not Christians this principle they try their best to keep and little things that bug u are not umm pondered on to the degree it interfears with your relationship/..
WHY is it then CHRISTIANS today think Happinesss is just their own feelings and cant or wont compromise to keep their home happy? WHY wont sooo many make Christ their true Love and when their wife or husband do someting or say something th twrong bring it to their attention in a loving manner ? .. If u angry at them allow time to kool down before confronting them and Pray and I mean Pray which means Listen also not just telling God what u want ok?/ .
DO not call your spouse by anything other than what that is pleasing for them to hear.. BE always willing t o accept critisim that be helpful or maybe even something that u doing tha t is wrong that u should change to be more pleasing for the one u married ? . Have time t o discuss issues of importance to u and for him to discuss things with u and that the ybe not at bed time when your tired n can not always think as clear as needed ok? /
BE able to disagree BUT not be disagreeable when doing so.. Women are sensitive about the ir appearance so men when your wife is gaining a bit of weight do not be remarking on theis negatively by calling her fat. . Men suprize your wife with little gifts they need not be extravegent .. Flowers or just one . If U HAE CHILDREN time alone with just u and her is also a gifyt ,, hire a baby siitter or have a friend if u cant afford one to ook after them for u for a few hours time so u 2 an be alone and have time to be together .
Hence, in a request for readmittance to church membership, the options available to the repentant may be severely limited. Before final action is taken by the local church, the request for readmittance shall be brought by the church through the pastor or district leader to the conference/mission/field committee for counsel and recommendation as to any possible steps that the repentant one, or ones, may take to secure such readmittance.
How do they show repentance.?
11 He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.
To repent means to turn from their sin. Should they do like in Ezra
They all gave their hands in pledge to put away their wives, and for their guilt they each presented a ram from the flock as a guilt offering.
Are they supposed to put them away, kids and all return to their their first wife?
3 Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. 14 You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lordi s the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
15 Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.[d] So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, does violence to the one he should protect,”[e] says the Lord Almighty.
Here it says while they are divorced God does not hear their prayers "You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands."
So he have do violence against his second wife and send her and the kids away. Even he turn a new leaf and has an awesome family.
Or have does have to keep both wives like the in Exodus .
0 If he marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights.
He may never receive ordination anyways. The church says, to safeguard the unity and harmony of the church by not giving such a person responsibility as a leader; especially in an office which requires the rite of ordination
The bible says,
The bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior given to hospitality, apt to teach;
The bible uses at he word for divorced "apostasion " In 1 Timothy 3 it uses "mia" meaning first or one and the word " gynē " meaning woman . Most likely the meaning is one woman compared
to other verse when mia is used with a person. If it meants first woman the church would correct.
The last option is the a remarried man shows repentance by living faithfully to the wife he has currently . Here is how 1 Timothy 3 is translated in the NIV
Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,
Here is what I think , if a man shows the qualities above in his marriage even if it is his second ,he has shown signs of repentance. Please correct me if I am wrong. I may be wrong but as of now I
I believe this.
Why did Eve who know only happiness and joy eat the fruit of the tree of good and evil? Why did a prefect angel fall? Why Christians keep on sinning after seeing the the death Jesus on the cross? Why don't Christian love their enemies? Why so much lack of faith? The answer to these , is the same answer to your question?
all this divorce and remarriage- i have personally seen from believers in my lifetime-
is one of many reasons why The Church lost it's authority to speak of Gay Marriages
(speak into gays lives)
The Sanctity of Marriage starts with your own marriage.
One Wife for Life and Love and Sacrifice for Her (mirror God's Love for the Church)
anything short of that creates many sins
God bless you all here
# Luke 6:42
How can you say to your brother, 'Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,' when you yourself fail to see the tree in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the tree out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
I was reading this in James;
This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. 16For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. 17But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy.…
The foundation of Marriage is based on selflessness which is our ability to put aside our own selfish needs and address the needs of others. Many people think of relationships as a method of personal fulfillment, rather than a chance to be fulfilling. They are waiting for another person to meet their needs, rather than seeking to serve. If we are daily fulfilled by Christ he will provide us with sufficient energy to meet the needs of others. When we look past Christ to other people to meet our Spiritual needs, we are going to be disappointed. People are flawed and cannot do for us what God can. When we first seek Christ and allow him to fulfill us, then he will provide us with what we need to serve our spouse.
Marriage is not easy for us sinners, but if Christ is at the center he will guide couples so that their bond will grow stronger over time. Many Christian Marriages fail because people are attached to religious traditions but not to living as Christ did. They are not truly fulfilled internally, and thus are unhappy with those around them. Instead of growing in patience, kindness, joy, peace, humility, love and self control, they become more dissatisfied with themselves and those around them. Thus, it gives them the opportunity to seek fulfillment in other people dishonoring their marriage. In the end if we seek Christ first and his Kingdom, our marriages will be an unbreakable bond.
Beautifully said Leon
God Bless Herbert...
It's very helpful.
It is true that sometimes the couple is looking more to the weakness of their partner than trying to solve.
Selfishness and lust that always grows in man.
We are all sinners and in a problematic situation of households, invite God and pray together.
Hopefully our households are built by God and not man himself.
Thanks all and God Bless...Happy Sabbath
We learned in James :[hopefully] wisdom is not just knowledge it connects with our conduct.. SO what Good does the manual for marriage in The SDA CHURCH do if it just disregarded to suit ones own purposes hmm? Persay u marry in the Church n yo u do so out of devotion and love but the one u marry finds fault with u continually and does not addres anything specifically? . WE are told not to Judge meaning harshly or presumptiously for we all err in some part of our life yes?
You can say something that hurts your mate and not even know it . WHY is it then if this happens and u keep it all locked up inside would u expect a marraige to survivve and that many today think they so rightous the y need not give their mate Grace n forgiveness for their short comings ?
WE living in a time where selfishness rules the hearts and yet the y also wont listen to reasonable council either and even refuse to be corrected. I seen it haappen when Marriages disolve over hardness of heart n the inability of the other to forgive something their mate said t o them. I think of the unjust steward that was forgiven His Large Debt But Refused to show mercy n grace to someone that owed him but a little.
I have heard from many where over the internet they met a loved one and married thjem bringing them to their country only t o have them leave a short period of time later and this goes to men as well as women... Is it physical abuse alone that is faced ? Men can be physically abusive it true but do not todays women in the church also being abusive in a different kinda way ?,, Does 2 wrongs make it right Then? ..
WHERE Does Mercy and Grace come in at in a Marriage setting where the other is in error but by love and forgiveness that is seen in actions bring about change ? I just curious maybe if any of these othe abusive behaviours have been addressed ? . Are we so easily seeing abuse as in only the men and only Physical violence or maybe at times verbal abuse but anything beyond that is tight lipped and does not exist?
. Any Ladies HAVE Anything to say about this topic feel free anyone else too. If this is to be adressed FAIRLY then everything must come to the light just not one aspect hmm? If the Pastor of the church that married u also tries to give council but it is refused wha t stops them from going to another state and filing for divorce and re-marry ??
For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. 17But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy.…
Christians who marry often don't understand that at the core of love is unselfishness. They marry for reasons that seem noble, like companionship or to be loved. In our world romance is depicted as the pinnacle of fulfillment; where we can be truly valued. This is often leads to the cruel realization that people can only fulfill partially and no one can adequately meet our needs. These jaded realizations lead to dissatisfaction with ones partner and many seek to find fulfillment in other things and other people. Spouses become an hindrance; we realize they are flawed and begin to devalue them. Early compromise turns into a wrestle for control, money, affection, time and other resources serve as fuel for arguments. Instead of growing closer couples day by day fade apart, until the early love is replaced with animosity. Christians who should have started with Christ as the core of their existence and their primary source of fulfillment, now are frustrated because they are in a loveless marriage.
The solution is not that complicated. Return to Christ as your first love. Seek fulfillment in Him, once you are strengthened by his abiding love you will feel valued, accepted and fully loved. He will confirm you through service to him. You will learn to sacrifice for others, to give of your time and resources. He will teach you how to encourage, support, and care for others. These actions will confirm the immense value Christ has for you. Then instead of seeking service from your spouse, you will learn to serve and find joy in that action. This path is no guarantee for a bad marriage, because it does take two selfless people for success, but you will be on your way, and with God your path is guaranteed. With Christ at is core and service as your purpose, your relationships will bring the joy that accompanies your salvation.