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I have been battling for quite a few many awful things have happened in my life...this had led me feeling down and dipressed as if God was just silent and watching....I know he has his ways...but I am suffocating...I love God...I believe in Him...I know he loves me too...I feel let down

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Hi, you are not alone. God has a way to answer your problems. Remember the song- "God will make a way, when there seems to be no way, He works in ways we cannot see, He will make a way for me". I had my ups and downs and feeling the same way as you do , but above all, have faith in God like Job. God's timing is perfect, only if you surrender it to him, when problems knocking at your door, ask Jesus to handle it for you. God Bless :-)
Dear Mercy,

First of all I want to apologize for a long reply, as there are several things I want to share with you. All, things that I have been learning, that God has been teaching me. I agree that the Christian walk can at times be difficult. Christ Himself tells us in John 16:33, "These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; for I have overcome the world."
"Confirming the souls of the disciples, and exhorting them to continue in the faith, and that we must through much tribulation enter into the kingdom of God." Acts 14:22. It is not, however, impossible. "And Jesus looking upon them saith, With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible." Mark 10:27. Sometimes God allows us to go through difficult and trying times. It's not always easy to see or understand why He allows those things to happen to us. Sometimes we even question God. I think we all go through moments like the one you're going through. And as hard as it is to do at times, we are told to "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding." Proverbs 3:5. There is a reason why God allows us to go through difficult moments in our lives. "And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; And patience, experience; and experience, hope" (Romans 5:3, 4). God wants us to trust in Him completely, to have complete faith in Him and His promises. And here's why. Matthew 24:21 says, "For then shall be great tribulation such as was not since the beginning of the world to this time, no, nor ever shall be." This morning I was reading chapter 34 in the 1844 edition of "The Great Controversy Between Christ and Satan",titled Beyond Probation - The Time of Trouble. This is what Ellen G. White says.
"The time of trouble such as never was, is soon to open upon us; and we shall need an experience which we do not now possess, and which many are too indolent to obtain. It is often the case that trouble is greater in anticipation than in reality; but this is not true of the crisis before us. The most vivid presentation cannot reach the magnitude of the ordeal. And now, while the precious Saviour is making an atonement for us, we should seek to become perfect in Christ. God's providence is the school in which we are to learn the meekness and lowliness of Jesus. The Lord is ever setting before us, not the way we would choose, which is easier and pleasanter to us, but the true aims of life. None can neglect or defer this work but at the most fearful peril to their souls."
"We should now acquaint ourselves with God by proving His promises. Angels record every prayer that is earnest and sincere. We should rather dispense with selfish gratifications than neglect communion with God. The deepest poverty, the greatest self-denial, with His approval, is better than riches, honors, ease, and friendships without it. We must take time to pray. If we allow our minds to be absorbed by worldly interests, the Lord may give us time by removing from us our idols of gold, of houses, or of fertile lands."
"As Satan accuses the people of God on account of their sins, the Lord permits him to try them to the uttermost. Their confidence in God, their faith and firmness, will be severely tested. As they review the past, their hopes sink; for in their whole lives they can see little good. They are fully conscious of their weakness and unworthiness. Satan endeavors to terrify them with the thought that their cases are washed away. He hopes to destroy their faith that they will yield to his temptations, and turn from their allegiance to God."
' "The apostle John in vision heard a loud voice in Heaven exclaiming, "Woe to the inhabiters of the earth and of the sea! for the devil is come down unto you, having great wrath, because he knoweth that he hath but a short time." Revelation 12:2. Fearful are the scenes which call forth this exclamation from the heavenly voice. The wrath of Satan increases as his time grows short, and his work of deceit and destruction reaches its culmination in the time of trouble." '
"Yet Jacob's history is an assurance that God will not cast off those who have been deceived and tempted and betrayed into sin, but who have returned unto Him with repentance. While Satan seeks to destroy this class, God will send his angels to comfort and protect them in the time of peril. The assaults of Satan are fierce and determined, his delusions are terrible; but the Lord's eye is upon His people, and His ear listens to their cries. Their affliction is great, the flames of the furnace seem about to consume them; but the Refiner will bring them forth as gold tried in the fire. God's love for His children during the period of their severest trial is as strong and tender as in the days of their sunniest prosperity; but it is needful for them to be placed in the furnace fire; their earthliness must be removed that the image of Christ may be perfectly refelcted."
"The season of distress and anguish before us will require a faith that can endure weariness, delay, and hunger,---a faith that will not faint, though severely tried. The period of probation is granted to all to prepare for that time. Jacob prevailed because he was persevering and determined. His victory is an evidence of the power of importunate prayer. All who will lay hold of God's promises as he did, and be as earnest and persevering as he was, will succeed as he succeeded. Those who are unwilling to deny self, to agonize before God, to pray long and earnestly for His blessing, will not obtain it. Wrestling with God---how few know what it is! How few have ever had their souls drawn out after God with intensity of desire until every power is on the stretch. When waves of despair which no language can express sweep over the suppliant, how few cling with unyielding faith to the promises of God."
"Will the Lord forget His people in this trying hour? Did He forget faithful Noah when judgments were visited upon the antediluvian world? Did He forget Lot when the fire came down from heaven to consume the cities of the plain? Did He forget Joseph surrounded by idolaters in Egypt? Did He forget Elijah when the oath of Jezebel threatened him with the fate of the Baal prophets? Did He forget Jeremiah in the dark and dismal pit of his prison-house? Did He forget the three worthies in the fiery furnace? or Daniel in the den of lions? Christ cannot forsake those who are as the apple of His eye, the purchase of His precious blood."
"Could men see with heavenly vision, they would behold companies of angels that excel in strength stationed about those who have kept the word of Christ's patience. With sympathizing tenderness, angels have witnessed their distress, and have heard their prayers. They are waiting the word of their Commander to snatch them from their peril. But they must wait yet a little longer. The people of God must drink of the cup, and be baptized with the baptism. The very delay, so painful to them, is the best answer to their petitions. As they endeavor to wait trustingly for the Lord to work, they are led to exercise faith, hope, and patience, which have been too little exercised during their religious experience. Yet for the elect's sake, the time of trouble will be shortened. The end will come more quickly than men expect. The wheat will be gathered and be bound in sheaves for the garner of God; the tares will be bound as fagots for the fires of destruction."
God wants us to be saved. Each and every one of us! That is why God allows these things to happen. Well.. I have to be going now. Have some things to do before the Sabbath. But it is my hope and prayer that you find the same strength and hope in reading these words as I do when I read them. Take care and may God bless you! And never forget.. don't give up. That is what the enemy wants. Before I leave I'm going to leave you with some verses. They are some of my personal favorites and they fill me me with peace and hope. I hope they do the same for you.

Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. Isaiah 26:3.

Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. Psalm 55:22.

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. 1 Corinthians 10:13.
You are special to God and he is even fond of you. His silence is an opportunity to learn about him and to invite his greater interaction with you.

Somehow in the Laodicean church we have come to believe that if God loves us he will not allow bad things to happen to us, or will at the very least deliver us quickly from those bad things that happen. Our expectations are let down and we start feeling like we are drowning. How do we rise above it?

The Bible text that is important for us to know about with respect to failed expectations is this:

Mat 11:12 And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force.

In humble dependence we are to struggle with God for his deliverance and for his watch care in the time between his deliverance. I'm going to upload a publication for you entitled Harnessing the Power of the Will. It discusses how to meet this struggle with God. The topic is on overcoming, however the principle of struggle is still appropriate for failed expectations. The violence is not literally violent, but demonstrates the great desire for God's deliverance. It is Jacob's struggle.

Another text:

Jer 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
Jer 29:12 Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.
Jer 29:13 And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

I heard a wonderful program on 3ABN this evening and heard a man's testimony. He has written a book Help Lord, I Blew It Again. He has his book available at He has a very refreshing perspective to bring to walking with God. I found it a useful perspective because it talks about the heart DNA.
Why are there times when God seems silent? It is because there are times when God is silent. We do not see many examples of this in the Bible, but there are some. Because of his continued disobedience God quit talking to King Saul. It reached a point where not only would God not talk to him directly, but he would not even speak to him through a prophet. Saul finally resorted to finding a witch to wake Samuel for a consultation because no one else would tell him what God had to say.

Another example is given in 2 Kings 3 when Moab rebelled against King Joram of Israel, and Joram asks King Jehosaphat of Judah for assistance in subjugating Moab once again. Jehoshaphat insisted on consulting with Elisha first. When the kings arrived at Elisha's home he told Joram, "As surely as the LORD Almighty lives, whom I serve, if I did not have respect for the presence of Jehoshaphat king of Judah, I would not look at you or even notice you." Joram was Ahab's son. God had already ruled against the house of Ahab for their sin, but had delayed the destruction of that house into the days of his son because of Ahab's partial repentance. When this happens God turns his face away from such sinners -- their probation is ended and sentence is going to be carried out. There are a number of texts in which God says he will turn his face away from us due to our sins, but just as many that tell us if we repent he will turn his face toward us and show us favor, and give us peace.

Even when God has his back turned to us it does not mean he has left us or has stopped reaching out to us. Three times God told Jeremiah not to pray for Judah because it had already been decided that they were to be punished by a Babylonian captivity for their sin (Jeremiah 7:16; 11:14; 14:11). Yet Jeremiah's ministry to them was not finished, and God had him reach out to them on a number of occasions for a number of reasons. Primarily he was to tell them to submit to the captivity God had commanded, but if they chose not to submit, most would be destroyed and most of the rest would be carried off into exile instead of being allowed to serve a captivity in their own land and only paying tribute (taxes) to Babylon. They refused to submit and the level of punishment was increased to death and exile with only a small remnant being left to tend the vineyards and fields, and even these refused to submit and eventually returned to Egypt.

Yet not all such afflictions come because we have sinned. Here we have the example of Job. Job's friends kept telling him to admit his sin and repent, but Job kept saying, "I have done nothing I need for which I need to repent." And God says in all this, Job did not sin. When Job's wife told him to curse God and die, he said to here, "You are talking like a foolish woman. Shall we accept good from God, and not trouble?" The Hebrew word rendered foolish denotes moral deficiency. In other words, in Job's opinion his wife was sinning by refusing to accept the hardships God sent.

Amos 3:6 says: When a trumpet sounds in a city,
do not the people tremble?
When disaster comes to a city,
has not the LORD caused it
-- NIV

The word here translated as disaster is ra'ah. It comes from the root ra which means evil. KJV translates this word as evil but many modern translations do not because we refuse to believe that God has anything to do with evil, nor does he ever use it for his own purposes. We run into major problems when we use our own definitions for things instead of Gods. Evil is not necessarily sin, though all sin is evil. If I am walking in the mountains and a rock breaks off and falls on me, evil has happened but the mountain has not sinned. If I slip and fall off a cliff, evil has happened to me, but neither the mountain nor I have sinned. But here, in this text, God says if the evil happened he did it. Job said we should accept this from the hand of God just as we accept the good things he does for us, and job did not sin in saying that.

Isaiah 26:9 says: My soul yearns for you in the night; in the morning my spirit longs for you. When your judgments come upon the earth, the people of the world learn righteousness. Paul comments on God's discipline of his children in Hebrews 12. In verse 11 he says No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. Even though Job had not sinned he still had much to learn about God. Satan did as well, so Job suffered.

Affliction is a necessary part of spiritual growth. It does not matter if it comes on us as a result of sin or if it is simply God bringing some other level of spiritual understanding to us. Affliction is a given in the godly life. Jesus told us to take up our crosses and follow him. The purpose of the affliction is given in Isaiah 48:10 as well as other places: "See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction." Once again, the affliction can come about as a result of sin, or not, but always it is about a lesson God wishes you to learn. When the affliction is brought on by sin, it will not be removed until we repent, so from that we can assume that if it is brought about for other reasons it will not be removed until we have learned the lesson God is teaching through that affliction. In Leviticus 26 we read:
21 " 'If you remain hostile toward me and refuse to listen to me, I will multiply your afflictions seven times over, as your sins deserve.

40 " 'But if they will confess their sins and the sins of their fathers—their treachery against me and their hostility toward me, 41 which made me hostile toward them so that I sent them into the land of their enemies—then when their uncircumcised hearts are humbled and they pay for their sin, 42 I will remember my covenant with Jacob and my covenant with Isaac and my covenant with Abraham, and I will remember the land.

Going back to the matter of affliction being sent to teach us to be spiritual, we see in Ezekiel 37 and interesting prophecy. It is the valley of dry bones. There are a few things in this prophecy that we regularly over look. While this prophecy is about the reformation of the Nation of Israel into the Kingdom of God there are certain aspects of this prophecy that can be applied individually as well as he forms each of us into his temple, or into stones in the corporate temple.

As Ezekiel prophesies in his vision the bones are gathered and reformed into skeletons, then the tendons and ligaments form, then the muscles and organs form and finally they are covered with skin, but while the appear to be alive (or freshly dead) there is no life in them because there is no breath in them. Ezekiel is then commanded to prophesy life into them by prophesying to the four winds. This is only one of three places in the Bible where a mention of the four winds is not about a curse. The other two are Matthew 24 and Mark 13, both recording the same lesson Jesus gave his disciples and speaking of the elect being gathered from the four winds where they had been scattered. Here Ezekiel prophesies to the four wind, which bring strife and and says to them, Come from the four winds, O breath, and breathe into these slain, that they may live. The Hebrew words ruach and neshamah both mean breath and spirit; ruach also means wind and neshamah also means wisdom or cognitive ability. The word used here for breath is ruach; but regardless of which word is used, we are not truly alive until we have received the spirit of God within us and it is the affliction of the four winds that brings that life to us.

So it is our refusal to hear God and see his hand in everything that happens to us that causes him to turn his back on us. Yet he does not forsake us. He may not show us his face or speak to us, but he remains close enough to hear us, and will listen to us. If we seek him sincerely, and truly repent he will turn his face back to us and free us from our affliction. That means we must give up all our false Gods, including and especially the ones "who would not do these terrible things to me." Look for God's hand, not his back or Satan's hand in these things. Learn the lessons that God is bringing to your attention and gain a more abundant life (more spirit) as a result.
There is one other thought I wanted to include here but forgot. Dr. Stephen E. Jones speaking on this has stated, "I have found that whenever God teaches you something there is always a cost. Sometimes it is money; sometimes it is time or something else; but there is always a pound of flesh."

From my own personal experience I know that I will face the same issues over and over again until I get the lesson right. Since I have always preferred to try to avoid unpleasant tasks, I spend way too much time facing the same issues over and over. So look where God is leading, face up to it, and learn the lesson. And please, don't throw these words back at me next time I try to avoid doing what God wants me to do.
-Hi Mercy,

There have been times when I don't hear God speaking to me and in those times even His written communication (Bible) seems to mock me. When I get to those times I want to give up everything I am doing...
Then I remember the truth that Christ died for me and for my sins and rose so that I too could have eternal life.
The very fact that I have accepted that gift means that He is very much there and very much listening and very much acting on my behalf even when I have pulled away. He has promised that all things will work together for the good of those who love Him. :)
Believe it or not, NOW is the time to praise Him with your whole heart, especially the bit that is mourning His absence. Missing Him and longing for Him is His gift to you--cherish it (this is a choice, unfortunately) and obey as well as you can.

You are not alone.:) God Bless You more <3 :)
When it seems God isn’t listening … regardless of how it looks right now, the Lord is not far from you. He may be giving you an opportunity to trust Him more and wait for His help rather than rely on your own resources. God would like us to deepen our dependence on Him. God will not withhold any good thing “from those who walk uprightly (Ps. 84:11). “Do not fear or be discouraged (Deut. 1:21) the lord … will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear or be dismayed (31:8). No matter what your situation, you can find evidence of God’s goodness – so keep looking for it with faith and hope. God may hold the reasons above our understanding and far beyond our natural field of vision in order to develop our faith.
Trust in the Lord… (Prov. 3:5, 6)

When it seems God is silent we have to
Keep on praying - “Pray without ceasing”1 Thes.5: 17.
Seek out a fellow believer with whom you can share your feelings and ask for prayer (1Thes. 5:25)
Meditate on the truths of Scripture and what God has done for you in the past (Psalm 77: 11-12)
Keep on praying in faith to our great God, no matter how silent heaven may seem (Luke 18:1)
Our God is “the God who does wonders”! (Psalm 77: 14)

God bless.
praying for you Mercy. Hold on. God bless
God bless you.
Friend! Jesus suffered because our sins we have done. Jesus also feel hurt. Peter failed when Jesus need him most. Jesus 100% human when He was crucified and the pain that He felt no one ever felt. He cry,hurt,suffered,beaten,slap,betrayed and He also feel the same how we feel now. But did Jesus ever say God only keep quite and wacth only?...never but He pray and ask for a strong faith and He did it and satan loose.
Hebrew 4:15, 5:7-9

Sometimes we don't pray hard and with honest. and maybe too there's sins that we did not confessed and as forgiveness from God. Every trials bring us to Him and ask our self what have we done and why...
You are not alone in your feelings. Great men of faith, Biblical giants, have felt discouraged too.
Trust and or faith leads us to rejoice even in difficult times...Ps 5:11; 28:7-8
God uses trials and afflicttions to draw us closer to Him. In every trial we hear a call to prayer...Ps 119:67,71; 62:8

Why we battling because its our sins. We make the sins we must settle it by our self thgough the prayer.
Feeling down is sins friend...because by feeling that way we feel doubt with God and not trusting in Him.Love and trusting is not enough but we have faith 100% with God a relationship. we can carry the heavy burdens if we believed in God and trust Him...Phillipians 4:13.
Have you ever kneel down and pray to Jesus ask for forgiveness and expess all your sorrow to Jesus?

Anyway i pray that God will fill your heart with a strong Faith,trust and believed God LOve so much...He died because of you and me. Dont feel down but be strong until the second coming of Jesus...I Love you mercy so does Jesus.
Mercy God is perfectly not silent. Sis i don't know your real problem but i know this is something to do with your life.
1st you must found out why and what is the reason. Discuss it and settle it.
The greater problem you have but you have the greatest Savior that is Jesus. 1 thing you should do is you must keep on praying and let Jesus do the rest and by the time you must repent too. Jesus Love you very much that He died for you Mercy.
The more you feel down the more you'll feel disappointed. Feeling down is no good for your healthy too. Time like this you must have strong FAith.

Jesus love you.
Do you believe and trust Jesus and accept Him as your Savior?
If your answer YES then stop feeling down and stand up to face and settle this problem and God will be with you friend...1 more thing you are precious in Jesus heart and remember He is counting every tears that falled from you...
Isaiah 43...that's how God will lead you and God willing to settle it but you must 100% believed He can and you can...God forgive every sins we have if we coe with humble heart and ask for forgiveness.

God bless you sis may God And the Holy Spirit Guide you through this.
Don't er leave Him time like this okey...You need Him and He need you....Philliphians 4:13 pls read this okey.
Hi Mercy, I have battled and am still battling some awfl things that have happened to me in the past. At some point I couln't understand what it meant to be happy, I was always angry at even my friends and at God.

But over time, I realized that am responsible for my own happiness here on earth . Yes, sometimes it seems that God doesn't care but He does! He has engraved us on the palms of His hands and when in life we feel that no one, even God, seems to care , that is when God is really interested in us. Remember Samson, when He felt that God had left Him, He still prayed and the Bible says that the people hew killed that day were more than those he had killed in his entire lifetime!

someone once said that give temporal thought to things that are temporal and permanent thought to thiongs that are permanent. And He ahs promised us that He can never give us temptations that are too hard for us to handle, that are beyond our faith so maybe He is just waiting for you to realize how strong you are.

Sharing our challenges is also helpul, coz we realize that we are not the only ones struggling on this earth, or struggling with the same problem, you open up to people and you realize that othars ahve gone through worse stuff and they are still strong! So Mercy, no , God hasn't abadonded you, He is just waiting for you to realize your potential!
Hi Mercy, I think you need to be honest with yourself about what you really want in life and you as a person. Maybe there is something disturbing you that you never really want to admit to yourself and so you keep pushing it away. i call it the 'demons' of our lives and it is important that we learn to face them through the help of the holy Spirit otherwise they will kweep on haunting us and derail us completely.

This is common especially when we feel that we have to do things to please other people around us, and so welcome their praises for us, but we forget about us, we forget that to be fully happy in our lives, we have to love ourselves first.

It is always better to be you than to be right. Happiness is a function of our relationship with ourselve and not dependant on anything outside us. Mercy, the best tool that the devil uses againt us, what he used against our first parents, is to make us doubt ourselves. whatever has happened to us in the past belongs just there-in the past-and we really have to ask God to help us overcome the 'demons' from our past that keep hunting us. And something else? Never doubt yourself or condemn yourself, it is the best way of inviting the devil to beat you down and make you feel worthlee, no matter what has happened to you or what you ahve done in the past, always live room for mistakes in your life because we can never be perfect and we are bound to slip sometimes but we have a High Priest in Heaven ready to hear our prayers.

All the best gal!


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