Seeking for too much in a relationship
Have you ever been in a situation where you know exactly what you want in the other partner and make it known to God. When you discuss it with your friends, they tell you, your expectation are too much and cannot be matched by anyone in this planet. You get to a point where you even think probably thats why you have never been in a relationship so you ought to cut down what you're looking for and accommodate people with their short falls. But then again, when you reconsider cutting down the list, it dawns on your conscience that its like you are underestimating God's ability to grant you all you ask for. This is a serious dilemma, so how best can you approach the situation?
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Permalink Reply by Christopher Bailey on -
Dont limet GOD he can help
.....I am new to this sight and i do not know how to do things like respond to outher people, can anyone help me -
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Permalink Reply by Kevin Kadipo on -
Trusting in the Lord and let Him do the choosing as you do the receiving. But you must not expect a perfet person if you are not perfect yourself. Remember the bible says non is righteous but Christ. So, you must accpet people with their shortfalls as already humans had erred since the days in Eden. Wish you all the best sister. God will hear your cry.
Kevin
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Permalink Reply by daniel Gyimah on -
Can u be my friend?
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Permalink Reply by Marcia Musara on -
Yes, feel free to send a friend request.
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Permalink Reply by Josephine Sarange on -
I believe that God gives u what u have,,it's only a matter of time and with patience u can always get what u need,,,,Delight yourself in the LORD and He will give you the desires of your heart....
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Permalink Reply by Andy Setiawan on -
hi, Marcia..
for me.. loving is not about finding a perfect one.. it's about loving in the perfect ways.. Jesus Christ love us.. not because we are perfect.. but because He loves us in the perfect ways...
so.. the basic standard for us to pick our partner is written all over the passages we use to deny different religion marriage..
2 Corinthians 6:14-15 told us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers..
so one of the basic rules is get someone from the same Faith..
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
so the next basic rule is.. your pair must be someone who had the same vision and mission with you.. or at least.. you have reached mutual understanding of each others..
you may had other specific rules.. probably I am a short person.. so I want a tall spouse so I had tall kids.. but this additional rules are not the basic principles.. therefore you're welcome to reduce any standard of your which is not part of the basic rules.. who knows you set your standards to high.. because we will never find a perfect spouse.. a perfect couple consist of 2 imperfect individuals who complete each others..
for me.. cutting down your requirements does not means that you underestimated God's capability to provide you with someone you want.. but it shows that you realized how each person is a special individual creation of our Lord..
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Permalink Reply by Marcia Musara on
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Thank you. This is mouthful and more of an eye opener to me i never saw it that way.God bless you.
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Permalink Reply by Candacey on -
God will provide. Of course, the person that God thinks is best for you and the person you feel would be best may not match up. He will give you what you need and once you realize he has provided the best, you will realize that this person is also who you want.
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Permalink Reply by Marcia Musara on
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thanx a lot
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Permalink Reply by Janelle Hines on -
i get that all the time, "your expectations are too high" or "youre too picky". i tend to disagree with those statements when they are uttered. all i am looking for is a seventh day adventist christian man, one who is ambitious and educated, one who truly loves the lord, loves kids and is adventurous and loves to travel. he also needs to be open to being loved and loving.
i dont think thats too much to ask for. the lord wants the best for His children. i dont see anything on my list that i could or should remove. i am not concentrating on the physical, nothing on my list says handsome, tall, brown, wavy hair or blue eyes. my must haves all have to do with character traits.
in jamaica we have a saying, 'every hoe have dem tick a bush.' this simply means that everyone has their ideal partner, and sooner or later that partner will surface.
truthfully though sometimes the waiting process gets weary.
i used to just talk to guys because its the 'thing" to be in a relationship. lol. now, if he doesnt match up i dont even give it a second thought
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Permalink Reply by Marcia Musara on
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i agree with you.It's either the guy meets the standard or he leaves whilst i await the perfect match
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