Long distance dating
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Permalink Reply by Quacinda Jodyne Topkok on -
A few that came to my mind on first consideration..
Talking/sharing is more intellectual, and tends to be deeper.
Some people may assume or consider a distance relationship an easy way to be IN a relarionship and not get serious.
After the first meeting it seems to help one know for sure if they want to continue dating.
Not seeing the other person in real-life is a big disadvantage because you miss out on sensing attitudes and body language that helps tremendously in determining his/her character, unless they can talk/communicate such things about themselves genuinely, openly, consistently and honestly to help complete what the other cannot sense - see and hear..
Money - for visits when desired. -
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Permalink Reply by Chim Nuka on -
I do agree with you Quacinda in that there is a lot that could be missed out if people do not visit each other regularly as they could have been if were no living very far apart from each other. This is a con for long distance dating. Money is a big thing and at one time there could be plenty of it and at other times there could be very little of it. Will that not put a strain on the relationship while dating.
One thing my previous relationships have taught me is the less things you miss out the better.
On the other hand, I have not come across advantages of long distance dating. It's like saying, what is the advantage of someone raising a child for you far away from where you live. Dating is there to bring 2 people know and understand each more and more to allow love, trust, and every good thing thing to grow between them. In other cases, with children if they are already there. The less the physical distance the better. In this case it's about reducing the disadvantages as much as possible than digging the advantages.
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Permalink Reply by Quacinda Jodyne Topkok on
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Have to agree..
Seems one huge advantage to being a couple is 'companionship'.
Another thing to consider is that once a physically affectionate relationship starts, the intellectual sharing is greatly reduced; so maybe hold out until you are sure your potential partner has been given a mental run through of your must-haves and can't-stands. -
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Permalink Reply by Chim Nuka on
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Why is it that "once a physically affectionate relationship starts, the intellectual sharing is greatly reduced"?????
Does rationale go out of the window??
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Permalink Reply by Quacinda Jodyne Topkok on
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It's a popular trend for dating couples, but maybe more so for the younger couples. Not sure why.
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Permalink Reply by Chim Nuka on
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How about if courting takes more precedence than dating would that still apply???
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Permalink Reply by Quacinda Jodyne Topkok on
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What do YOU think? Isn't courting a bit different the dating?
And what is more prevaliant? Those are the issues we need to be [more] aware of and to deal with most. -
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Permalink Reply by Chim Nuka on
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Not really. Courting is the getting to know each other that carries on even in marriage. Wikipedia says: Courtship is the period in a couple's relationship which precedes their engagement and marriage, or establishment of an agreed relationship of a more enduring kind. In courtship, a couple get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement or other such agreement.
I think courting is more open and more honest so that your friends really knows who you are and vice versa also true. That way there is no hiding ones faults
Anyone with more incite into this???
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Permalink Reply by Quacinda Jodyne Topkok on
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I am not disputing courtship, I believe it is a Godly way. I was just comparing the two ways. :-). Thanks for your thoughts. Always great to consider.. :-)
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Permalink Reply by EMILE LUNION on
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If we started chatting with someone over the net,by phone,and he or she likes what it is saying,then there is a possibily for a potential mate to developed.At point it needs to be taking to a higher level.Courtship is a most,for in the phone any body can say what they want,but in a courtship it is not easy to fake the real character,or showing the true color.You need to see a person in the 4 seasons to see what he or she looks like,so they said.
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Does rational go out of the window,Yes it does happend sadly say.But in a relatioship when the rational is gone so is the whole relationship,this is another simple way to say dead zone.nothing survived.
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It sound like are you saying all the intellectual dating,courting and sharing,have one purpose,one end in itself,is to lead to physical affectionte sharing.The 2 lines need to continue,one can not be broken.I could be wrong but the phisical kind of fadding down the road ,and make place for straight comanionship,what a pitty,which i regret that, for the fire needs to stay on.For where there is no fire,there is goldness or should i say freez.For me,stimilation is very intellectual sharing,and everything else follows.No stimilstion,no intellectual sharing it is a dead zone,and the relationship falls a part soon or later.
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