I know the Bible speaks about the grounds of divorce being unfaithfulness, but what about abuse? I have a friend who is being mostly verbally abused but sometimes physically abused in her marriage. She feels like she is being mentally tortured by the abuse she has received. He was not like this when they were dating. This all started right after marriage. She has endured this for 3 years now. Does God want us to stay in relationships where one can be abused like this?
Abuse IS unfaithfulness - outside God's plan for relationships.
she has serious choices to make in her life; life is on-going.. it does not end when she makes a vow because conditions change - if he does not cherish, honor, respect and love her he has already broken HIS vow.
Yes, great thoughts. [And] she should keep in touch with the guiding Spirit [of God], she can do no wrong to follow His leading in the matter; she she WILL KNOW if she has faith.. He will speak to HER heart..
It's not grounds for divorce biblicaly speaking, but it is grounds for separation.. As someone who has been in such a relationship I am not relating from merely principal, but speak from a first hand perspective.. I have searched sister White's work, and counseled with many pastors on the issue for my own purposes.. If it has gotten physical though she should definitely leave, and refuse any form of possible reconciliation until he has completed anger management classes..
maybe before thinking of divorce, they should be adviced to get professional help, maybe through a pastor, or someone you trust will help them resolve their issues through God's intervention.
A pastor will be of no use if it is being caused by selfishness neglect? Today many have lost their Love for A Christ and have but a form of religiosity sort of going through the motions because the y accustomed to worship but it dry an d formal.. Now if the yeasily set Christ and his commands aside then it easily done to set aside their mates physical and emotional needs as well when i tconvientant .. WHY is it if a spouse asks fo rsomething specific the y need and it is continually excused and ignored if it be brought up it called nagging but if the other 1 contimues tpo hound their mate about minor issues that not alwaays done around the house it is called just a reminder?
HAS love gone so cold today in the hearts of Gods people the y can put aside their mates physical and or emotional needs and it fine it not important but the yget all irate if u neglect some household chore / ? WHAT ABOUT THE edges of the SABBATH or in actuality the begining part at sunset is it any less Holy and easily ignored then Sabbath morning?/ If Gods commandments are easily forgotten for private matters how much easier is it to show your mate the y are not important and their needs also are of little value to u in the way the ytreat and ignore them?
DO u actually believe if u Love Christ with all your heart mind an d soul u would so easily forget your marriage vows too? their no such thing as a divorce from a marriage vow without first leaving your first Love Christ also in the little (seemingly) things. You chew on that a little while before u hastily reply back ok ?
FOR ONCE Teresa Ihave t oagree with u here, Myguess is that their werew te;ll tale signs before the marriage but were ignored hoping it would get better , NOW who has witnessed this verbal abuse ? Remember this the bible states their needs to be a t least 2 other witnesses tha tcan testify what takes place ok?
Sometimes it am called verbal abuse today when YOUR mate has asked for something that is reasonably already theirs and when the yask for it the yget ignored or their spouse gets irate and acts as if the request is selfish and refuses to listen.
NOW verbal abuse today is supposed to be when a spouse calls the m names or makes fun of them in public . IT hard to prove verbal abuse when it private behind closed doors so to speak. / Some today think it is verbal abuse when an argument accours and the mate is heard shouting or raising their voice to a level that the other finds distateful. . AGAIN verbal abuse is harrassing or putting down your mate in one form or another calling them things that be inconsiderate like lazy , ugly , making fun of their inteligence calling the m stupid or ignorant etc etc , physical abuse can be hair pulling, slapping punching , which be the most common hmm can physical abuse be withholding from them too what the yhave need of too??
SEPERRATION IF Physical abuse has been seen clearly and counciling has taken place and nothing has changed, their going to be loud arguments at times and it is normal but hitting someone that causes them bruises or cuts is not to be tolerated ,
The only Biblical grounds for divorce is Physical Adultery. Anything else is solved by "separation"... Nuff Sed